Post Date December, 02 2023
I am currently 6 weeks pregnant and still at home to have a baby. However, I found that my husband uses another WeChat signal and chats with other women every day while I sleep. The content of the chat is very explicit! I accidentally read his WeChat while he was taking a shower, and now it's difficult to calm down. I didn't sleep all night last night, so I don't know what to do? I hope Brother Shan can help me. I'm 33 years old this year, and this is our first child.
To be honest, even if I kill him, I won't believe that he is a person who will cheat. If I kill him, it's hard for me to imagine that the person sleeping next to my pillow would make such a move! After my mother passed away, I always believed that he was the only person in my world who deserved to be trusted and relied on wholeheartedly. It was extremely sad to be hurt by the closest person!
In fact, I didn't mean to look at his mobile phone at the time. It was that morning that I helped him turn off the alarm clock and saw that he had another WeChat with several women inside. Then last night while he was taking a shower, I accidentally saw him talking openly with a woman and found out that he started using WeChat in 2013. He's been lying to me for four years!
To be honest, if he wants to find an outlet for his emotions, I can understand, but either he won't be noticed, or he will have some restraint when our relationship is good. However, during my pregnancy and the stage of child protection, he did so, which made me really sad! "I don't have anyone to tell me. Last night, when I saw this, my heart beat faster, my stomach ached a bit, and I didn't sleep well all night.". Looking at the way he seemingly cares about me during the day, and thinking about what he has done, I really feel cold at heart!
My husband and I are quite well now, and we used to quarrel a lot. But anyway, it's really hard for me to let go of such a thing. I don't know if I should tell him and warn him in person? Or what? Please, help me!
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Women's pregnancy is indeed a period of high incidence of infidelity and infidelity among men. On the one hand, women are prone to focus on themselves and the fetus due to physical discomfort during pregnancy, thereby neglecting their attention to men. In addition, they are unable to perform normal marital life during the early stages of pregnancy, leading to sexual hunger and thirst among men, prompting them to have various negative thoughts driven by desire. At this stage, women should be vigilant.
In fact, on the other hand, this is the time to test whether a man has a firm will and whether he is loyal enough to his feelings. At this point, a man who truly loves his wife will never want to chat or cheat. Instead, he should always think of accompanying his wife, striving to take care of her emotions, and taking good care of her daily life. This is a man with a sense of compassion, righteousness, and responsibility.
However, based on what you confided, your husband's performance really makes people speechless. When his wife, who is already an elderly pregnant woman, is struggling to conceive and maintain a baby, he is a big man, carrying his wife on his back and holding a mobile phone, even chatting online about women. How embarrassing is his wife's feelings! Therefore, I would like to advise all female friends that men's mobile phones should not be easily touched, which may be a time bomb. If you accidentally touch them, they can easily blow your heart and soul apart. The gains outweigh the losses.
In fact, marriage is like this, often full of uncertainty. No one's marriage is absolutely safe and secure once and for all. If you think your man is loyal and reliable, that's just what you think, not the true one. So, starting from the day a woman and any man start together, they should have assumptions and preparations. If one day he betrays me, what should I do?
"I think at this point, you should first calm down your emotions. After all, you are pregnant and the child is innocent. Don't let the troubles between adults affect the baby's health.". Moreover, your husband may not be doing well and may still be in the chatting stage. Although he has been planning for a long time and started it a few years ago, if there is no sufficient evidence at present, then he is entitled to be considered a first offender.
In order to avoid feelings getting stuck in a rut, I think it's better not to rush into the breach first, let yourself remain calm, and use this as a signal to rationally examine and reflect on the status quo and past of your marriage to see if there are any problems with yourself. In order to save this marriage in time and put an end to his dirty thoughts in time, you can tell him a story about how his best friend or sister encountered similar situations, and then how they grieved, even causing a divorce and family breakdown. Then observe his reaction and subsequent behavior. If he can awaken from it and return to normal, it would be best. If he does not repent, or even more reckless, it is not too late to break his face with him.
In short, dealing with certain disloyalty and betrayal behaviors in marriage should vary from person to person, from time to time, analyze specific situations, adhere to the bottom line and principles, and be more intelligent and less impulsive. Try to save what can be saved. If it can be resolved, resolve it. If it can be resolved privately, don't take it to the table. If it can be resolved by yourself, don't trouble your family.
Think about it more broadly. Men are inherently unreliable things. From now on, being strong is the way out. Women should be self-reliant. As long as you don't rely so much on men financially and spiritually, you won't be so afraid in the future.
