Post Date December, 03 2023
A friend left a message asking me: What is the most terrifying thing in love and marriage. I answered him this way: the most terrifying thing in love and marriage is not arguing, let alone endless complaining, because whether it's arguing or complaining, there is still a desire for two people to make up for their shortcomings. But when two people have nothing to say in love or marriage, or even live a polite life with a hypocritical attitude towards each other, that is the most terrifying and terrifying.
Whether it's love or marriage, the most necessary thing in the process is to rely on communication to make up for mutual misunderstandings or misunderstandings, even the most extreme form - arguments are acceptable. As the saying goes, couples who argue and argue every day are not necessarily bad couples, and couples who appear to be beautiful are not necessarily good couples.
Arguments between lovers and couples are also a form of communication. To be objective, arguments are often the most revealing form of communication between lovers and couples. Although it may be extreme, they are still a "beautiful" form of love.
When a couple or lover is no longer speechless together, meaning that even talking to each other is considered unnecessary, then this is a signal that the "red light" of love and marriage is about to light up.
In fact, the communication between spouses and lovers is trivial and not necessarily formal. Life is trivial, so love is not always as romantic as novels or movies. The love life brought by trivial life is also a kind of triviality, even a form of "nagging". This kind of triviality or "nagging" often refers to what one has seen and heard in life and work, or one's own views on certain things, as well as areas where one is not understood by one's partner, and also includes telling or nagging about areas where one does not understand or misunderstand. In fact, this is also a form of care or love, but because it is in love life, the form is different from other forms of communication.
When you find that your partner no longer shares their true thoughts with you, nor does they tell you anything about their own recent situation, but only vaguely prevaricates, then you have to consider that your love life is starting to turn yellow. You should pay attention.
The greatest harm in love or marriage does not come from the body or language, which means it does not come from arguing or punching each other, but from each other's silence, which is their indifference, which is often referred to as cold violence.
In fact, the form of cold violence realization is not just the kind of silence we think we don't speak, but there are many forms, one of which is only polite and hypocritical each other, rather than the real ultimate and caring. If one or both of them no longer care about each other, and no longer use their own things as communication between husband and wife or lovers, then such communication is even more terrifying than cold violence, which is also the most terrifying fear between couples and lovers that I will talk about in this article.
Show sincerity, communicate with sincerity, care for each other, don't get tired of the trivialities of life, and don't always use love life as a filling in. Sincerely love, throw away hypocrisy and unrealistic love psychology, boldly express all your dissatisfaction and misunderstandings, and let your love life always have endless words to say. okay?
