Post Date December, 02 2023
This is the third time I have discovered that he has cheated. His disguise skills are getting worse and worse, and perhaps I cannot pose a threat to him. A while ago, I saw him eating at the same table as other women, talking and laughing. Eating at the same table is normal, it may be a customer, but that doesn't mean much. But when I called to ask where he was, he didn't even blink and said he was working overtime at the company. I am hiding in a corner, unable to do anything except for heartache. After I discovered it the first two times, he promised me that he would definitely cut off contact and live a good life. But how can I explain the scene I saw?
We have been married for 8 years and have a clever and sensible child. The first two times, I endured this grievance for the child, accepted his apology, and did not pursue his mistakes. At the same time, I let go of my harsh words to him and said, 'Once again, no more. If there's a third time, I won't let you go, you must get divorced!' I threatened him with a conversation, and he swore not to commit it again. But I don't know how to face the current situation. I sought my sister's help, but when she asked me about the situation of a third party, I had no idea. She asked me to investigate the background of the other party first, knowing oneself and the enemy, in order to be invincible in all battles.
I found a private detective to help me investigate, and a week later, I learned that the third party was neither my husband's partner nor had any business dealings, let alone a pure hearted girl. I couldn't understand why my husband took the risk of going with him. Collecting and playing with evidence, I had a showdown with my husband and made a big fuss with him. My sister helped me scold my husband, and he was so bloody that he knew he was wrong and remained silent. After the noise, the house was eerie quiet. The oppressive atmosphere made me gasp for breath. This time, I proposed a divorce, simply packed my luggage, led the child, and returned to my mother's house.
Calm down, I regret filing for divorce. It's been three times now, and I really can't face it. Besides, the third time I even spoke harshly, he didn't apologize or guarantee this time, and I couldn't find a step down. What should I do now? I really can't bear to let go of the hard built home.
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
The husband's infidelity is a great blow to any woman. You have been married for eight years, your children are obedient, and if your relationship is stable, it can be said that you are a happy family. But your husband has cheated three times, and for the same woman, have you ever thought about the deep-seated reasons for his infidelity? Marriage is a common problem between two people, and you cannot just forgive him. Both of us need to reflect on each other. Marriage cannot last long simply by forgiving. What is needed is to fix the loopholes in the marriage.
Men and women are vastly different in their perception of problems and worldly wisdom. The woman you think is insignificant in your eyes may be a fatal temptation to them. I want to understand what he wants from the other person and whether it can be reflected in himself. If you want to preserve your marriage, you cannot be too embarrassed. You are in a rage now. After making a scene, move back to your mother's house and leave him alone to meditate. If he reflects on his mistakes, it's okay to say so. If he's also considering divorce, it's useless for you to regret it. If there is a problem, go and solve it, don't evade. I want to understand his thoughts and listen to his voice. If life doesn't last, I agree to divorce, and procrastination is not good for each other.
