What if he demands a divorce after exposing the extramarital affair between his husband and his friend's wife

We met at school in 2005 and got married in 2008. Our relationship has always been good. My baby is four and a half years old this year. In October of last year, my husband's attitude towards me was neither warm nor cold, and I couldn't figure out what the situation was. In the past few years of marriage, he and I have been working hard in our careers. Even if I have to take care of the baby, we have not dared to slack off in our work. We saved about the same amount of money. We bought a house in the county town and later bought a car. We both work in the city, and with the car, commuting to and from work is also convenient. We send our baby to kindergarten, but it's not windy or rainy, and everything is fine.

Around October, my husband always uses overtime as an excuse and often doesn't come to pick me up from work, asking me to take a taxi back on my own. I'm very puzzled. I usually forget about it. During rush hours, I can't even catch a taxi. It rained several times, and I was drenched to the bone. Later on, I heard that he was sending his colleagues home and becoming a good person. I am particularly angry: my wife ignored me and went to serve others! I had an argument with him, and in the following period of time, he restrained a lot. He is a civil servant and there was no previous situation of working overtime. However, he repeatedly told me that he wanted to work overtime and socialize with clients, which made me very frustrated.

He used to celebrate with me on festivals, but now he doesn't even care about our wedding anniversary. Many times, I found him hiding in the restroom making phone calls, with the water pipe on and I couldn't hear him clearly. I started checking his phone number and found that there was an extra phone number for his "friend's wife" in the phone he saved. At first, I didn't pay attention, but instead opened their SMS with ambiguous words, which made people unconsciously shiver. From the chat information, it can be seen that the other person is three years older than my husband. They often date and eat, and this person is his best friend's wife. He should have called her sister-in-law. Now it seems so dazzling.

I exposed him, and I plan to tell his friends and expose his face. My husband learned that I was investigating him and without a word, he proposed a divorce. The house was left to me, and he kept the child. I don't agree, so he threatened me to shut up! Now that we are strangers, I think if I say one more word now, he will seriously divorce me. I didn't hide my words. I told his family about the situation, and he became even more angry. Now he's sleeping in separate beds with me. What should I do? I feel like I'm useless!

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

The appearance of an extramarital affair is psychologically unpleasant for a wife. For a temperamental wife, anger can cause death and ruin a man's reputation. At this moment, even if the fault lies with the husband, the wife will still be installed with a hat of freedom and nothingness, unable to receive sympathy and encouragement, and will fall under the name of a "shrew".

In a situation like yours, first of all, communicate well with your husband. The request he is making now is clearly threatening you, which is to seize your mentality of not leaving him. It is obvious that your position in this family is far from enough for him. You have disclosed the privacy between your husband and wife to his family, and your elders will uphold justice for you. However, at the same time, your bottom line of self-esteem will also be in front of him, without a trace.

Can't always let him threaten, what does a man most want? Face saving. He and his good friend's wife have sex, and you should seize his key and tell your husband that if you don't change this behavior, you can directly negotiate with his friend. Communicate rationally and confidently, do not panic, remain calm. If marriage cannot provide a sense of security and satisfaction, then what is the use of it. An extramarital affair is just an interlude in marriage, you need to know about marriage to know the theme song. Dealing with extramarital affairs takes time, and remember not to mess around.