FITT: I think it is mainly affected by two factors: one is the material and economic conditions, there is no certain material conditions, no woman is willing to marry, and men will not ask for marriage; The other is the psychological factor.
Mr. Zhang: Marriage is more of a responsibility for men. Girlfriends can have fun together, but if you marry a woman, you should be responsible for her future. Many young boys born in the 1980s I know told me that they would not marry until they were 30 years old. When they talk about their views on marriage, they are a little pessimistic and confused. I don't deny that sometimes, because of physical needs, age pressure and utilitarian considerations, a man marries a woman he doesn't love. This phenomenon has always existed compared with women. However, I always believe that marriage is a man's greatest affirmation of women and the highest praise.
FITT: Men are not choosing the best women as wives, but the right partners.
Mr. Zhang: For example, if I fall in love with a girl and consider marrying her, I can't help but face some practical problems. I will ask myself: Is there any economic basis to meet her higher daily expenses? Can I forgive her for not doing housework? Can she tolerate many social engagements after marriage? What should we do if there is a better man around her... Men's consideration is more practical and more responsible - you can see that we are thinking about what might happen in life, rather than what women call just emotional aspects. Not marrying you doesn't mean that you are not good enough. Although sometimes you will regret not marrying your favorite person, love is not all about men after all. I think the best choice is to marry Tomomi Nagao in "Tokyo Love Story" finally. Akira Akira is not suitable for living together and will be very tired - perhaps because the screenwriter understands men's psychology better.
Goya: No regrets? As the saying goes, men are afraid of picking the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. Women's choice of marriage seems to represent their choice of future life
Xiaojin: Isn't that the case with men? When a man chooses a woman, he actually chooses the person who will live with him. I want to say that sometimes it is not to love Ling Xia Lielie, and to die and die can be called love! There was a friend who just broke up with his girlfriend. The love between the two people was quite stormy. She envied others: girls gave up a lot for men. Every time she makes a little sacrifice, she will let men see her. She is good. She is not a nagging type. She doesn't bother men first, but she is adding weight to the balance of men bit by bit. At last, when the limit of men is reached, the men only say: "You will be much happier if you don't stay with me! I won't be so tired." Tear and leave. I must admit that men are not willing to bear too much emotional debt. They are afraid that living in that way will be too tired. This is the weakness of men. Men are sometimes very simple. It is women who complicate men.
Goya: So men are not emotional animals, but rational animals
FITT: Not necessarily. It's just that men behave differently from women. When choosing a wife, we also rely on feelings. At least we are not tired of staying together. Maybe this emotion doesn't need to be so fierce, but it can move men more slowly. Everyone is human and has feelings. Men also cry, although it seems to me that crying is a sign of weakness. If a man can cry in front of a woman without fear or speak out his doubts, I think that both men and women should feel happy. This kind of emotion is not easy. I don't see much of it. Most of the time, it is men who bear the burden of thought alone, while women add new pressure. The biggest pressure on men is not from society. Finally, the crux must be women.
Mr. Zhang: We men don't blame you, because women are also the source of men's vitality.
Goya: Our crime is very big! But isn't the biggest pressure on women also from men?
Xiaojin: Ha ha. Most of the women who vent their frustrations are directed at men! A survey found an interesting phenomenon: many men complain that when a woman is upset, she is not looking for solutions at all. She is satisfied as long as you listen to her crackling.
Mr. Zhang: I feel the same, but men are not the same. Men are looking for solutions. When he has a problem, he will find a friend to solve it. Everyone can brainstorm, come up with ideas, think of ways and then act.
Goya: Well, men and women are really different in this respect! There are other differences - women like love, men like sex.
Mr. Zhang: You can't simply say that! I let the woman I love enjoy the pleasure of sex - in fact, men's love is very simple. Men care about women's evaluation of themselves in terms of sex and whether they are satisfied with her.
Goya: Is that true of any woman? Or to the person you like
FITT: Men have attitudes towards sex. Smart women can judge the sincerity of men's feelings from this. When you are with a woman you like, you will take into account her feelings, stare at her expression, and observe her reaction. There is pressure in your mind. You should sprint with all your strength, for fear that she will be unhappy if you don't do it well; But it's not what you like. It's easier. You don't have to bother at all. As long as you feel comfortable, it's OK. The pressure is much less, and it's easier to relax.
Goya: So men are easy to cheat? Let me make an analogy. Maybe it's not very appropriate - I can do it on any venue, and I can start on any equipment
FITT: Ha, your metaphor is very masculine. How can I say it? I can make it clear to you that a man can love only one woman in his life, but he can still hold other women together. Men have men's rules.
Goya: You mean that he may really love you, but he may still be involved with other women. Will his beloved woman be sad when she knows?
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)