Post Date December, 03 2023
What are the necessary psychological qualities to save marriage
For the understanding of modern marriage, different people have their own opinions. Some people believe that marriage is a golden birdcage, where the birds outside the cage are eager to live in, and the birds inside the cage are eager to fly out; Some people also think that marriage is a web of sewing and patching, where you sew and I sew and make up for each other. Marriage is not only a form of family organization, but also a social relationship. To maintain a harmonious and stable marital relationship, it has never been a one-way track in operation.
It is also necessary to understand the psychology of marriage and family in marital life. Saving a marriage is essentially a psychological exercise, in which we need to have some basic and effective psychological qualities to act as lubricants and escort the marriage.
1. Be tolerant and magnanimous.
In interpersonal communication, it is important to be strict with oneself and lenient towards others. The key to getting along with a husband and wife lies in mutual tolerance and understanding. Moreover, there is no perfect person, how can one expect to live according to your ideal mode without distinction. With a broad mind, one will not be bound by one thing at first sight, and will not be fixated on the other person's shortcomings and shortcomings, causing boredom and depression in the heart. Nevertheless, there is a bottom line to tolerance and magnanimity, which cannot be transformed into condoning the other party's arbitrary bad behavior, which is detrimental to marriage.
2. Calm rationality.
When a person panics, they become disoriented, like ants on a hot pot or headless flies, disoriented and disoriented. The investigation of marital crisis is ultimately an artificial result, and both spouses are inevitably responsible. Only by analyzing the essence of the problem in detail and resolving the negative situation as soon as possible is the best choice. Marriage is not a child's play, and there is no such thing as three days of fishing and two days of surfing the internet. Only a stable marital state can create a happy and happy marriage life. Therefore, marriage requires independent and rational management, and one must not blindly follow others. They must have their own experience and understanding of marriage, summarize their experiences, and prevent and resolve crises. If both people lose their sanity, are impulsive and reckless, and some knots will never be resolved, it is advisable to learn to restrain the momentary unpleasant emotions and avoid causing mutual harm to the other party and oneself.
3. Perseverance and tenacity.
In marital life, couples may be troubled by trivial matters such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, etc., may be struck by illnesses or accidents, and may also suffer from physical and mental infidelity, all of which require a strong inner heart to withstand various impacts. A resilient and tenacious mentality will not easily abandon a loved one or give up marriage. When encountering problems, they will face difficulties and will not shrink back. Both husband and wife have their own marital and family responsibilities, and no one has the right to destroy a hard-earned relationship or harm their closest person. In the journey of marriage where we work together, mutual encouragement, support, and comfort will lead us further and enjoy more scenery.
4. Willing to give.
Emotion is always the most important foundation for maintaining a marriage, and emotions are not easily measurable. But if we are not fussy in our marital life, willing to take responsibility, willing to invest time, energy, money, love, etc. in exchange for a knowing smile, sincere communication, mutual respect and trust, our marriage will have a beautiful and bright future. Willing to give, focusing on action. Every move of a husband and wife can be seen by the other person's eyes and felt by their hearts. People's hearts are mutual, and marriage is a win-win behavior for both parties.
