Post Date December, 03 2023
What are the inner thoughts of various men when dating? Unifying the question, as well as the differences between men and women, can lead to diametrically opposite conclusions. During the dating process, men and women experience differences in their minds and behaviors, from starting a date to gradually establishing a relationship.
Do you know what men are muttering in their minds when dating?
Men want to take care of it all at once
With the development of technology, we should have more time to fall in love, but the fact is that urban men and women not only need to work longer hours, but also the distance between their places of residence and work is becoming increasingly distant. Some surveys even suggest that the time allowed for them to do whatever they want is only 22.3 minutes per day.
Women need 21.2 minutes to determine what to wear; Men need 18.7 minutes to tidy their hair and shave. The actual idle time is 1.1 minutes and 3.6 minutes, respectively. Of course, the above statement is somewhat exaggerated, but you have to admit that dating is a time-consuming thing.
In order to improve the hit rate, 57% of men met their partner through a friend introduction, 31% met at a bar or party, and 12% chose to date a work partner. Once a man wants to approach a woman, most of them take the initiative to invite her. Achieving this step is not difficult, as long as it is not timid or high self-esteem, it should be possible to achieve it in a relaxed state of mind.
72% of men set their first date at a restaurant and then watch a movie; 27% of people go hiking or exercise, while the remaining 1% think of unexpected ways. For men, the first date is very important, and there are not a few men who have the mindset of settling things once. "If his first invitation is rejected, he will lose confidence greatly, and it is likely that he will try his luck with another woman.". It would be a big mistake to think that men are all brown candy and have indomitable beliefs. Not every man has strong nerves that can withstand "devastation". They are equally afraid of setbacks, fear of being ruthlessly rejected, and are easily trapped in a conditioned reflex to protect themselves.
If the first date goes well, a man will think that the relationship between the two people will likely grow well in the next few days. On the contrary, if a woman is not impressed on her first date, she will disappear and never hear from again. Due to the habitual assumption that there is no second opportunity, men tend to appear courteous on their first date.
Therefore, if the woman has the sincerity to accept the man, she should give a hint accordingly. If you are insensitive or hesitant, and cannot convey the message "I also think you are good" to the other party in a timely manner, and do not create conditions conducive to action for the men, perhaps the relationship between the two people may not make progress in the end. To be blunt, there are more and more pampered men who are too shy and not good at contacting women. Such men often expect women to take the initiative.
When dating to a certain extent, men will first consider taking the relationship further. It is said that men are lower body animals, and some even say that when dating, they always consider the timing of kissing. This statement is not excessive. 58% of men believe that if we really hit it off, having intimate contact on our first date won't reduce my love for her, 21% think three dates are better, and 21% think more than six. Generally speaking, when they harbor certain intimate intentions, they first want to understand each other's thoughts, and also try to convey their favorable feelings to each other.
The first condition for intimate contact is mutual affection. Too bold. It's not good to be slapped by a woman or pour wine on your face in public. Men are definitely sensitive and resourceful in trying to test women's minds
An old fox of stratagem. When watching a movie, it is common to pretend to accidentally touch the woman's hand or confirm her reaction by making slight physical contact such as touching her knee close to her knee.
In a bar, sitting side by side facing the bar counter has the same effect. Feel her attitude through seemingly accidental contact between shoulders. If the woman immediately pulls back her hand or knee, it can be concluded that she has no intention of further development, at least not yet. On the contrary, if she doesn't avoid it, it means there's a drama. After confirmation, how to implement the action?
Extending your date is a top priority. Suggest eating dessert after dinner, taking a walk together, or taking your partner home. Once such an invitation is made, it can basically be concluded that he is drunk and his intention is not to drink. Can I accept a kiss and finally commit to it? Several nights before the date, they were already simulating the action from the date that night to the final conclusion, asking for advice from their iron buddies, posting online, and deliberating on when and where to kiss.
During a date, they rack their brains to think about the next step in their behavior, so they tend to be absent-minded when speaking and completely unaware of the taste of the food they chew. Even if the women next to them have entered the realm of heart-to-heart conversation, they are often unaware of it.
The popular story of "Tram Man" in Japan is about an ordinary man seeking advice on how to pursue a woman he meets on the Shinkansen on the largest BBS in Japan, mobilizing tens of thousands of netizens to provide advice. Subsequently, this real event has been adapted into books, movies, TV dramas, and dramas. It can be seen that it is not easy for men to invite women and can become a topic that resonates with men.
Men have simulated dating scenarios in their minds countless times:
What to wear, where to meet, how to greet, where to eat, what topics to talk about during meals, and how to implement the next step. Revising the plan repeatedly, and constantly imagining whether it will succeed, often leads to increased nervousness. No matter what kind of psychological preparation you have or what kind of simulation exercises you do, the actual date may not be as they wish.
For men and women who have a good feeling for each other but are at the stage of mutual exploration, whether the timing and mindset of both parties are appropriate is a very delicate matter, often missing a great opportunity due to a misinterpretation of an expression or action. Even if the woman intentionally misses the opportunity, it is not easy to succeed. If a woman politely refuses to kiss or intimate, what will a man do to respond? Unfortunately, almost all men will not beg again, but simply give up.
Therefore, when you also have the intention to get along with him, to kiss or have intimate contact, even if you are not fully prepared for a moment, you should try to speak clearly and avoid misunderstandings. It is a great pity to lose one's destiny because one does not understand the other person's original intention, to blindly identify the other person as insincere and give up the relationship, or to avoid hurting one's self-esteem and fear failure, and not yet understand the other person's original intention, leading to missed opportunities.
What are the inner thoughts of various men when dating? Of course, there are also some persistent men who refuse to give up and try to win over each other, waiting for an opportunity to make a comeback. However, more often than not, men have been exhausted by their spiritual good intentions, and their self-esteem has been hit by rejection, preferring to give up in order not to be further harmed.
