Post Date December, 03 2023
Men mainly consider two orientations when choosing a spouse. One is social orientation: economic conditions, family, occupation, etc; The second is personal orientation: the woman's appearance (appearance, figure, skin color), quality (education level, interest, cultivation), moral character (moral quality, dealing with others), temperament, (personality, temperament, etc.). Social orientation is a volatile factor. During the Cultural Revolution, people's social orientation when choosing a spouse was significantly different from today's social orientation; Personal orientation is relatively stable, such as looking at the appearance first, which is beyond exception at all times and in all countries
What are the criteria for choosing a mate for a man
Mate selection criteria
Similarly, the criteria for selecting a mate for men, when specific to each individual, are also influenced by their respective environment and cultural upbringing. From a large perspective, manual workers and mental workers each have their own mate selection value orientation that suits them. The choice of a university professor's spouse is by no means the same as that of a porter. "However, we cannot say that there are no common tendencies, as both men are for the purpose of organizing a family, and thus have basic similarities, resulting in the following common tendencies: roughly the same aspirations and standards.".
① Better appearance
This includes three aspects: one is the charm of appearance, the other is the body shape, and the third is the color of the skin. Male couples often place their appearance conditions first, that is, they focus on the sexual and physical attraction of each other. If they are not satisfied, they often do not want to talk about it again, which is different from female couples. A woman can't see the man at first glance, but she often takes into account other aspects related to the man, such as a wealthy economic income and a satisfactory family situation. "A man's enviable social status, even his strong affinity for his mother, has been taken into account, and he will not turn him down at once. Instead, he is willing to make exploratory contacts, which may lead to a marriage in the future.".
② A gentle and virtuous character
This emphasizes the natural beauty of women's temperament. In terms of personality, women generally tend to "emotional social orientation", while men tend to "work achievement orientation.". The so-called gentle and virtuous, specifically speaking, is in the relationship between husband and wife, gentle and considerate; In dealing with people and things, be gentle and elegant; Be virtuous and magnanimous in treating your mother and child.
③ Strong demand for sex
Compared to women, men focus more on sexual attraction when choosing a mate. This is consistent with the first point, "Better appearance.". Someone has conducted experiments on a man in the selection of a mate. As soon as he closes his eyes, he is filled with the best actions, clothing, and facial expressions of the woman. These are beautiful fantasies and emotions caused by sexual impulses. A large number of dreamlike "desire relieving thoughts" in young men have a direct impact on their motivation to choose a spouse, which is a normal physiological reflection and should not be considered indecent.
④ The woman is younger than herself
Since men seek beauty in their partner selection. Emotional purity. It is natural for a gentle, virtuous, and sexy woman to wish her partner were younger. Generally speaking, when women are younger, their love for men has a strong attachment, while men are the most easily attracted and conquered by women. The two can be said to complement each other and complement each other.
The above are the common trends of almost all male couples, while the following three points are the common trends of most male couples.
⑤ Learned but tactful
Men love their spouses with knowledge, and no one likes silly girls. "However, the woman herself should know how to hide her knowledge, conceal her wisdom, and not deliberately show off her intelligence. She should keep her duties and understand the world. Although the man is silent about this, he is naturally convinced and likes and respects the woman.".
⑥ Dexterity
That is to understand "improvisation", know when, where, and how to comply with men, and understand the means of pacification; When and where can I timely display my wisdom and make men admire me. Know how to listen to men's stories at the right time and show a proper attitude of respect.
⑦ Be considerate
Therefore, if the wife can understand the hard work of her husband and treat her and her children with leniency, and do not haggle over everything, the momentum is not stronger than her husband, the husband naturally likes it from the bottom of his heart.
