Post Date December, 03 2023
Wife: I am 34 years old and my husband is 36 years old. We have been married for 8 years, and my husband has not been very enthusiastic about sex. I felt sorry at first, but I got used to it later. In the past two years, our sexual life frequency has been lower, and the last two times have not been successful. Now, we haven't had sex for nearly half a year. The days without sex don't seem to hurt me very much. I still love my husband very much, and I don't think there is much regret in life. Is my state also very wrong?
Husband: The last two sex lives have failed because of my weakness. I am afraid of another failure and have been avoiding it. I feel guilty, but my wife didn't complain about it. I don't know whether the busy work and the tiredness of taking care of children have made her lose her libido, or whether she has deliberately suppressed my face. I want to know how many couples are in asexual marriage. Can such a marriage last long without seeking medical treatment and changing the status quo?
This is a typical "asexual marriage" family. There is no unified definition of "asexual marriage" at present. It is generally believed that the couple has no physical health factors, or has no tacit sexual life for more than one month, not because of the separation of the two places, which is "asexual marriage". According to a survey, more than 1/4 of married or cohabiting men and women in China do not have a one-time life every month, and 6/4 have not had a one-time life in the last year. 2%。 It can be seen that "asexual marriage" is still very common.
The reasons for this situation can be roughly divided into two categories, one is "capable of sexual desire but without desire", and the other is "capable but without desire". The former generally refers to sexual dysfunction or organic disease of one or both spouses; The latter is usually due to stress or some psychological factors leading to the loss, disappearance or lack of sexual awareness.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
