Post Date December, 02 2023
For extramarital affairs, blindly tolerating not only won't improve the situation, but also can cause deeper scars and even irreparable losses to the already fragile marriage. So what should I do if I encounter an extramarital affair? Here are some suggestions that can help you overcome your current marital difficulties and reunite:
1. Learning tolerance is the foundation of redemption
If you still don't want to end this marriage, and the one who had an extramarital affair also admits to you. At this point, the other party should learn to be tolerant. In fact, tolerance is more effective than many girls' loud arguments, cold wars, or warning tactics.
2. Keep your head calm
When one party has an extramarital affair, the other party usually feels hurt or insulted and reacts differently from usual. In fact, if it is too intense, it will be even more detrimental to the development of the situation. Some people may find their family and friends to confide in, while others may immediately file for divorce. So when encountering an extramarital affair, making a heated and intense reaction not only does not help one's future, but also worsens the situation. Because marriage is originally a matter of two people, but due to your lack of calmness, your family and friends become aware of the other party's infidelity, which can put the other party and yourself in a dilemma: you not only need to spend time improving your relationship with the other party, but also make the unfaithful party early and despised by their family and friends.
3. Don't give a tooth for a tooth
After learning that the other party had an extramarital affair, I developed a retaliatory mentality due to anger and disappointment, and took a tit for tat measure. I also found a partner outside of P's. Once such measures are truly taken, not only will one face condemnation of conscience and a collapse of moral values, but most importantly, the handling of extramarital affairs will be of no use at all, and instead will lead to the destruction of one's marriage. Taking a tit for tat measure not only fails to retaliate against the other party, but also plunges oneself into a moral abyss, and sacrificing oneself cannot help others. So when discovering that the other party has an extramarital affair, the first thing to do is to have self-esteem and self love, and adopt a neutral attitude towards this matter. Firstly, point out the other party's mistake seriously and patiently warn them. If the other party can listen, they should carefully help them out of the predicament. We need to move each other with action and love. A survey has shown that most people who have extramarital affairs feel a sense of guilt towards their original partner, so as long as the original partner can truly and appropriately express their emotions to them, it may have a surprising effect and never save the marriage that is about to fail.
4. Find out the reason why the other party may have an extramarital affair
Generally speaking, the reasons for the other party engaging in extramarital affairs are complex, including psychological or physiological reasons, as well as subjective or objective reasons. So it's important to understand the root cause of the problem and then take corresponding measures to address it. Finally, both spouses sat down calmly and had a frank communication with each other to fundamentally solve these problems. Not only can it bring back this marriage, but it can also make both parties more accepting of each other.
