Post Date December, 03 2023
Netizens confide:
I am a high school teacher who has just started working and teaches physics in my third year of high school. In March of this year, a 17-year-old girl in my class broke into my life. Once, she gave me a letter in her homework notebook, which said, "Teacher, I fell in love with you. I know I shouldn't, but this is an irresistible fact. Please accept my pure love. I will dedicate everything to you, otherwise I will not be able to survive
After careful consideration, I replied to her a few words: "Cherish your youth, study hard, and don't cause lifelong regret for a momentary impulse. You will definitely have a good home in the future
Unexpectedly, on the day the homework book was sent to her, she came to my office to ask questions. At that time, all the other teachers had already finished work, and she saw that I was the only one in the office. Without my guard, she suddenly hugged me and started kissing and rubbing around. Although I pushed her away, she still didn't let go and grabbed my leg.
I couldn't help but slap her in the face fiercely. She ran out crying
The next day, she didn't come to class, but her classmates said she went home. I haven't been to school for a week in the future. Out of the care of the teacher, I carried her homeroom teacher behind my back and went to her house alone for a home visit (I was worried if I had slapped her too hard at the time).
I arrived at her house at around 7 pm. It was not yet dark and her family was not there. She lay alone in bed and was very happy to see me enter. She said she would come into the inner room and make tea for me. In a moment, she walked out of the inner room naked and stood in front of me. I panicked and didn't know what to do.
At that time, my heart was very complicated. If I slapped her again as I did last time, it was obvious that I wouldn't be able to do it; So I quickly retreated, wanting to rush out of the door, but was cleverly blocked by her. I was so dumbfounded that I had to stand there and close my eyes and plead with her.
After holding on for a while, she finally cried and said that if I didn't accept her anymore, she had only two ways to go: one was to call out and say I raped her, and the other was to die in front of me. What's the matter with this? In the end, I had to submit to her.
Later, she dropped out of school and helped in the store run by her parents. Almost every week, she came to me or asked me to visit her house, and our relationship became closer and closer.
She is very kind to me and considerate. She said she is not a bad girl and wants to marry me. I don't know what to do. Although she is no longer a student and poses little threat to my career, what is this to mention? Without even having had a romantic relationship, he fell into marriage in a daze. But who am I going to talk to about these things? Can I get rid of her?
Reply:
Your experience is not uncommon, but the world is vast and there are people and situations. Since you have encountered it and you have done it, it is no use regretting it again, because the wood is already made.
If you were passive at first, then in the future you will be purely willing. What you feel aggrieved is that she entered a substantive life without dating, but she was so fond of you, so bold and romantic, and did everything to get you, and the most intense love was also like this.
You should accept her unconditionally and be responsible for the relationship that has already occurred between you. Otherwise, even if no one knows, over time, it will eventually be exposed, and at that time, you won't be able to justify yourself as passive.
Besides, she wouldn't easily let go of such an ideal partner. Don't look at her being slapped in the face by you, lying at home ashamed and depressed, afraid to do anything to you. If she doesn't follow her now, even if she won't report you, she may still make a desperate appearance to show you.
As an underage girl, what is the reason for her strong courtship response? Is it her development, her physiological and psychological precocity, or are there other objective factors? For example, she has had sexual experiences before, had sexual harassment from men, or read pornographic books, magazines, movies, etc. Obviously, her behavior is not accidental. You should have a clear understanding of all these doubts from the side.
As long as she is a good girl, in addition to maintaining a relationship with her, the main goal is to cultivate a true relationship, and at the same time, guide her to continue learning with your understanding. If she can read more books and narrow the cultural gap with you, you may not feel like you are lacking in beauty.
If she is the type of restless girl who comes to you for sexual satisfaction, and then gives up on you when she feels bored with you, you can only give up and withdraw decisively to protect yourself. Being passive is certain.
The biggest mistake you made in this matter was not bringing your homeroom teacher with you during the home visit, otherwise how could that scene have happened?
Of course, when you go to see her, besides the uneasy slap, there may also be motives that you cannot express, because you are also a person of flesh and blood, during the peak of your life. Although a girl's deep affection for you is very hot, you inevitably have the idea to try it out in your heart, at least there is a psychological motivation to explore out of curiosity?
So far, I believe there are only two ways: one is to gradually distance and be indifferent, and see her reaction; The second is to make mistakes, just consider it fate!
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
