Unexpectedly discovered flirting messages between my husband and mistress when I was five months pregnant

I don't know what to do now. I'm five months pregnant, but I found out my husband has been having an affair outside for two years. I first discovered that he had ambiguous text messages with women on his phone. He never let me check his phone, and one day I only found out after secretly reading it. I didn't want to touch his phone, but many friends have reminded me to pay attention to my husband before. I'm actually paying attention to him, but I need to keep an eye on the store from home, and my husband often makes excuses to go out and do things.

My husband said to the woman on his mobile phone text message, 'Baby, I miss you a lot when I look at the store every day. We will definitely be happy together in the future.'. Shameless to say in English to my lover that I will always love you! After reading such messages, I couldn't bear it anymore. I cried and talked to my husband. He said he only sent these messages a few times and didn't do anything substantial with that woman, but I don't believe it. Then I went back to my mother's house and asked him to admit his mistake, but he just didn't admit it.

I just thought I could give up these five years of love, but the child in my belly is innocent, and I don't want to give up on this child because it wasn't easy for us to come here. We worked hard for five years to get this baby. I finally got pregnant, but he didn't cherish it anymore and actually did such a thing. My husband once said very hurtful things to me when I was just pregnant. He once offered to let me have my child killed, and I really don't know what he thinks.

A few days ago, my husband admitted that he had been with that woman, and his friend also told me that he went on a business trip with that woman a while ago. When I returned to my mother's house, I brought my mistress's house and made pork ribs for that woman. And during my pregnancy, he never took care of me. He didn't take care of me when I vomited profusely, and even asked me to cook and work. I always thought that as long as we had this child, we could redeem our five-year relationship.

My husband's lover is also a married woman, with a five year old child and his own husband. My husband knelt down and begged me when I was angry. He said he would change and even slapped himself on the mouth. I saw that he admitted his mistake and didn't want to continue pestering him. For the sake of the child, he then said I was making trouble for no reason. I was very angry and got into trouble with him, so he started hitting me, pulling my hair and slapping my mouth.

I am extremely sad now. I want to divorce him. During this time, my father-in-law fell ill due to our situation. We had 40000 yuan, which he took away. He said he had to divorce me. If I wanted money, it would be impossible. He said he would give all the money to his father for medical treatment. If I divorce now, I want to have my child killed, but it will require a fee. I need someone to take care of me, and I want him to provide me with financial compensation. I don't know what to do.

reply:

1. In the case of infidelity, the usual mentality of men is: as long as they are not caught and raped by you on site, I will never admit it. Because men are well aware that once they admit such a scandal, not only do they lose face, but more importantly, their actions cannot be forgiven by women, which can easily lead to marital crisis and make it difficult to continue fooling around in the future. For this reason, men will choose to speak hard and deceive without hesitation.

2. When you were five months pregnant, it was discovered that your husband had been cheating for two years, indicating that he did not love you enough. In your various behaviors during pregnancy, it can also be seen that he did not treat you as a lover or wife. For this reason, I am not optimistic about the future direction of your marriage, and I also question the blind or casual attitude you had when making wedding choices.

3. In current life, there are many men and women who cheat. In a marriage, should one partner choose to forgive after cheating and let the marriage continue? It depends on the other party's attitude after cheating. As for your husband, his reaction after infidelity is really bad. Firstly, you are already five months pregnant and he cannot choose to give up for his promotion to father. He has no mercy or care for you at all. Moreover, he focuses his energy on others and shamelessly takes other women home to make pork ribs; Secondly, after you discovered his infidelity, although he knelt down to beg your forgiveness and slapped himself in the face to show repentance, he also severely slapped you in the face. Excuse me, can a man still want a woman who is pregnant if he beats her cruelly?

4. Since you intentionally chose to divorce this man, I have chosen to support you. I cannot tolerate a man being cruel to women. Therefore, I hope that all women cannot choose to remain silent and endure domestic violence, and must learn to resist and stay away. As for your shared property being taken away by your husband, regarding economic and property disputes, you need to consult relevant lawyers. I believe the law will provide you with the necessary protection.

5. Finally, I would like to talk about the issue with your baby. The child is already five months old and pitiful for this innocent little life. If you want to give it up, give it up. Otherwise, bringing it into this world will also cause endless pain. The key is that once you get divorced, you don't have the ability to bring up the child. If you commit any wrongdoing, this child is really giving birth to the wrong child. Think carefully about where to go, just don't continue to be stubborn. In the future, we must take this as a warning, learn from it, and keep our eyes open.