When it comes to non marital sexual behavior, perhaps the first thing we think of is premarital sexual behavior, but in fact, people often neglect extramarital sexual behavior, which is also a type of non marital sexual behavior. Let's take a closer look at non marital sexual behavior between men and women.
Non marital sexual behavior includes two types: one is premarital sexual behavior, that is, sexual behavior that occurs before a man or woman who is preparing to marry performs legal marriage procedures. Pregnancy and other negative consequences caused by such non marital sexual behavior may have adverse effects on marriage and married life after marriage. For example, when a woman becomes pregnant, it often forces both men and women who are not ready for marriage to rush into marriage, or causes those who are not suitable for marriage to rush into marriage, thereby reducing the quality of marriage. The other category is extramarital sexual behavior, which refers to sexual behavior between a person with a legal spouse and others.
There are three main types of extramarital sexual behavior: ① de facto bigamy. Refers to the behavior of a man or woman with a legal spouse who cohabits with others in the name of the husband and wife without marriage registration Cohabitation behavior. Refers to the behavior of a person with a legal spouse living openly with others, but not using the name of the husband and wife An act of adultery. Refers to covert sexual behavior between a person with a legal spouse and another person. Both men and women who commit adultery do not use the name of the husband and wife, nor do they openly cohabit. Instead, they maintain a hidden sexual relationship and engage in sexual behavior in a hidden manner, and they do not want others to discover this sexual relationship and behavior. In fact, some of the rape acts defined as criminal acts by the Criminal Law are committed by people with spouses, and their rape acts also belong to extramarital sexual acts.
Reasons for non marital sex
According to actual investigations and studies, the main reasons for extramarital sexual behavior include the following: ① Defects in the marital relationship itself. Some marital relationships have their own shortcomings, often causing one or both of them to seek sexual relationships and behaviors with others, obtaining physical and psychological satisfaction in their sexual relationships and behaviors with others, and using this occurrence to compensate for the shortcomings of marital relationships. For example, due to the long-standing tradition of "parents' orders, matchmakers' words" in marriage, a large number of marriage relationships in Chinese society are still concluded on the basis of a lack of understanding between men and women, and after marriage, the feelings of both spouses are not harmonious. Marriage is not happy. For example, due to the lack of positive and scientific sex education, many married men and women lack sexual knowledge and skills, resulting in disharmony in the sexual life of couples, causing both to fall into persistent distress. Such couples have a psychological basis for having extramarital sexual behavior, and when they encounter appropriate external conditions, they are prone to emotional contact with others and engage in extramarital sexual behavior.
② The need for sexual pleasure. Some couples do not have significant defects in their marital relationships, and they do not want to dissolve their marital relationships. However, after a long period of marital life, they have a monotonous feeling about their sexual life, seeking extramarital sexual behavior and sexual stimulation. Some people occasionally encounter special life situations or opportunities, in order to meet their physical and psychological needs, quickly establish close relationships or emotional connections with others, and have extramarital sex out of a temporary impulse. There are also some people with low moral quality and extreme selfishness who seek every opportunity to play with the opposite sex for the despicable motive of sexual pleasure, and have sexual relations and behaviors with multiple married people.
③ The result of generating new affections in mutual contact. In modern social life, people interact more with each other and have more opportunities to make new heterosexual friends. Therefore, when making new heterosexual friends due to changes in social environment, living conditions, and their social status, it is possible to experience emotional transfer, empathy, and extramarital sexual behavior. The occurrence of extramarital sexual behavior due to these reasons may often lead to a crisis in the marital relationship, or even lead to the breakdown of the marital relationship; However, there are also some consequences that do not lead to divorce.
In fact, with the development of society, the occurrence of non marital sexual behavior is becoming more and more common, and premarital sexual behavior is generally accepted by people. However, the occurrence of non marital sexual behavior within marriage is indeed shameful, so we must pay attention to the communication between men and women, in order to better reduce the harm caused by non marital sexual behavior.