Post Date April, 15 2023
When couples focus on career, social, and childcare, love will gradually fade. When love has become a thing of the past, life begins to dull. Some neglected details, like a bomb in ambush, can kill marriage at any time.
Recently, a British survey alliance called "SuperDrug" conducted a survey among several couples and lovers. The results showed that the neglect of partners, especially the "one question and three unknowns" about the details of their lives, was one of the main reasons for the rise of divorce rate in Britain.
Among the men interviewed, 12% did not know their partner's birthday; 39% of people want to "guess" the size of their lover's underwear and shoes; 35% could not remember the brand and taste of perfume their partners liked.
11% of men can't remember their wife's hair color and what hair style they have when they go out every day; 10% of people do not understand the work of the other party; 54% could not recite their partner's mobile phone number, and even 23% said they knew nothing about their partner.
Love is easy to get along with, but marriage is easy to keep. One important reason is that men and women have different ways of understanding and maintaining marriage and love. Women are naturally delicate and pay attention to details. They are used to measuring and judging their partner's love for themselves with some small things. Most men are careless, and it is difficult to understand why women always have trouble with themselves in small matters. Over time, there will be contradictions between them.
In fact, marriage is a real life. Many details of the couple's life are the best interpretation of love. The wife comes back from a business trip, even if it is not a good dinner; When you are sick, the pills and a cup of hot water at the bedside; When shopping on the street, the husband can take the initiative to carry the bag - these are "positive energy" to keep the marriage stable.
"Marriage has never been as unsafe as today, but our pursuit of a safe marriage has never changed. The quality of marriage is always maintained, daily care and love are the basis, and mutual satisfaction in psychological, physical and other details is the core." The details of life are the decisive factors that make the couple's feelings develop in a good direction. Men should learn to be "motherly" and use sweet words. For example, if the wife wears new clothes or has a new hairstyle, she should pay more attention to it and praise its beauty. When the wife is doing housework, even if she can't get in the way, the husband may as well stand by and chat with her, saying "You have worked hard", so that she can feel that her labor value is fully recognized. If the husband is busy at work for a period of time and neglects to care for his wife, then prepare a gift with a card to let the other party feel the weight in your heart.
The maintenance of marriage requires the joint efforts of both parties, and women cannot take it for granted that they enjoy the care of your husband. In addition to caring for their partners in life, women should not have the idea of transforming each other. If you are dissatisfied with some of your partner's behaviors, you can speak frankly to show your dissatisfaction with this practice. Two people can find a new balance only when they slowly close to each other. Women's excessive demands and dependence on their partners may also lead to the loss of love. No one can pay attention to others for a long time, and no one wants to be paid attention to others for a long time. In life, don't forget to leave a psychological "oxygen bar" for your husband.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
