Post Date April, 15 2023
It is inevitable for male and female friends to argue for various reasons, and it is difficult to avoid big and small arguments. When faced with emotional crisis, many people do not know how to handle it, ultimately leading to the breakdown of the relationship and breaking up. To avoid this situation, it is necessary to prepare in advance. Below are some methods for dealing with love crises.
Three tips for dealing with love crises
The first way to control with guilt
When someone discovers that the temperature of love has dropped, some people will cry and make a scene at their partner, trying their best to induce their guilt. They will describe the solemn vows and unforgettable memories of the two during their love affair, and then continue to entangle and cry about the tragedy of their own situation and background. It is a sin to make the other party feel distant and forgotten.
The advantage of this method is that it is very effective for those who are nostalgic and often has a transformative effect in the love world.
The disadvantage of this method is that excessive entanglement can sometimes be counterproductive, making people feel disgusted and arousing the other party's reverse psychology. After all, no one likes' guilt '.
The second type is to use vanity to control
Once love falls short of one's own will, some people will use self deprecating and pretending to be humble to activate the lover's heart, making the other person feel that they have controlled love and have full face in front of others, in order to achieve the goal of silently maintaining love. They will use obedience and sympathy seeking methods to make the other party unwilling to treat them poorly. They will disregard their own satisfaction of all the needs of the other party and also make concessions on key issues to win the favor of their loved ones.
The advantages of this method are: using people's mentality of "debt repayment" and using "emotional debt" to obtain the guarantee of love, "being good to others will always move Ta", "If Ta understands that no one else will be so good to Ta except me, Ta will not leave me", which is sometimes effective.
The disadvantage of this method is that it loses self-worth and can easily "depreciate" in the other party's heart. A short-term gesture of kindness may be effective, but a long-term lowliness can become truly low.
The third way is to use jealousy to control
Feeling that the other person is constantly changing or not valuing themselves as much, some people may use jealousy to salvage their relationship. They will intentionally engage with other members of the opposite sex, show interest in them, or appear to be busy socializing and dating, in order to induce jealousy and possessiveness in their loved ones and regain their attention.
The advantage of this method is that sometimes love can be saved at critical moments, and it can instantly change the other person's heart.
The disadvantage of this method is that jealousy can sometimes trigger possessiveness, and sometimes it can also trigger irreparable anger. If there is a slight carelessness, it may lead to the complete departure of the loved one.
There are two ways to maintain a relationship
Having a strong commitment to maintaining your emotions:
Many partners initially have a strong commitment to maintaining emotions, but after some time, they begin to overlook it. They may overlook each other due to work, children, or some time-consuming hobbies. In a healthy relationship, both have other interests, but they can prioritize their commitment to maintaining their relationship.
Maintaining commitment starts from believing that having a good relationship requires effort. Various problems occur in every relationship, and both parties must make efforts and adjustments.
Treat oneself as a friend or equivalent partner:
Long term partners will view each other as good friends. They share different activities, enjoy each other's companionship, support each other when happy or sad, and they do not take these for granted.
In a successful relationship, two people may have very different roles, but they view each other as peers of equal status. They will not prioritize one person's views or interests over another. Both parties can feel that investing in this relationship is an important contribution. In addition to maintaining relationships, dealing with emotional crises is also a crucial factor in relationships.
