Post Date December, 02 2023
After marriage, the two people get along day and night, and the sweetness of the love period is polished off by the salt and vinegar after marriage. With the arrival of the child, attention is focused on the child. During this period, there will be many disputes over trivial matters.
Is marriage really a "seven-year itch"? The survey of the Scientific Research Office shows that the itch of marriage does not depend on the age of marriage, but on the natural growth age of people. For men: 30-35; 45--50； In the three age groups of 60-65, men are most likely to overflow the itch of marriage. The colorful scenery outside the city is always enviable, which makes the men in the city feel restless.
We can regard the "seven-year itch" as an alarm for marriage. This time is to remind us to take a look at marriage, whether it is aesthetic fatigue, or whether it is possible for two people not to survive. If two people really have no feelings and no love, then the original terrible divorce is not a sad thing, but a good way to release both parties. The classic line in Feng Xiaogang's "One Sigh" must still be remembered by everyone: "I feel your hand, just like my own hand, without feeling, but sawing off your hand is as painful as sawing my hand." In fact, there is still the feeling of touching the right hand with the left hand, which means that our love has not reached the end, and has not reached the point where fire and water cannot tolerate.
1、 There are unique ways to deal with itching
Maybe he changed the remark of his lover into the name of a colleague in the company. Women are naturally sensitive to this small matter, which is easy to crack if they have a heart. His reason for working overtime is even more convincing. You think it is beyond the common sense, and the flaw cannot be overcome; In fact, this layer of window paper is poor. If you fight with it with real bullets, he will push the boat along the river, correct the mistake, and fall into his trap, but you will not end up well. The most effective way to stay in this state is to leave him room for manoeuvre and make him feel that you are not an ordinary person. After a few moves, he will naturally retreat.
2、 Grasp the degree
I've always heard that whoever is serious first loses in love. In fact, there is often such a subtle feeling between husband and wife. Men and women, or women and men, are too active, too emotional, too affectionate, and the result is contrary to their wishes. People's mentality is sometimes strange, especially when men and women have extramarital affairs, when they return home, the other party is neither cold nor hot. In fact, it is not surprising to think carefully, because at this time he or she is completely abnormal husband and wife mentality, can it be normal to be absent-minded?
The most dedicated thing in a woman's life is "infatuation". Once you fall in love, even if you empty yourself, you still feel that you are not enough for each other. Blind infatuation is begging. Men's physiological genes and psychological base determine that their emotions are expressed in stages. Men's feelings are often fleeting, while women's feelings are often tenacious.
3、 Give him space
At present, many men and women will choose to marry late. In fact, the direct point is the fear of marriage. They are afraid of losing their freedom after marriage. A man is born with wild animals, which are suitable for grazing but not for captivity. A captive man has no vitality. The more he is captivated, the more he feels that the outside world is wonderful, the more "itchy" his heart is. The more he feels that the women around him have no novelty, and he always wants to look for fresh prey outside the city. In marriage, women don't have to be alarmist. They should appropriately give men freedom, but not indulgence. Let him have no difference between inside and outside. Even if they want to "itch", they will have their own discretion. If they let him go a hundred meters away, he will have a psychological balance, which will inevitably measure the moral bottom line of life between husband and wife. A free-range man often has a love complex, and women will be able to control him naturally. If a free-range man can't hold his hand because of an accidental encounter and a knowing look, and then does something to tear his marriage apart, then such a man is not worth remembering.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
