Post Date December, 03 2023
Before taking action, one must understand one's own position. We are trying to keep our boyfriend's heart, not arguing about who is right and who is wrong. After breaking up, the boyfriend may not care who has mastered the truth at all. He may just want to stay away from you and talk about reason at this time. It is completely unacceptable to use a strong argument tone to make the other party realize logically that 'he is wrong, cherish me'. So what are the ways to save your ex boyfriend? What should we do to save our boyfriend's heart? The following are the three major ways that the editor has organized to save his boyfriend after breaking up, hoping to be helpful to everyone.
1
Eliminate persistent fighting and plan calmly
During the period when we just broke up, we absolutely shouldn't make phone calls every day to "harass", plead, or admit our mistakes. There are two reasons for this: 1. Your current mood is very restless with each other, making it easy for you to lose control of your emotions in communication. Your boyfriend is also in a state of deliberately avoiding you, and even tired of your frequent harassment measures. 2. After a while, if the other party has figured it out, there will still be a chance of reconciliation. If they act too aggressively now, it will backfire and bring new obstacles to their future reconciliation. In the early stages of a breakup, it is important to control your emotions and do what you should do. Even if the other party has a tough attitude towards the breakup, you can first say to them: Let's calm down for a while before making a decision. In this way, we can first steer clear of the breakup bomb, give each other some space and time to settle their emotions, and also buy time and opportunities for ourselves to save our boyfriend.
2
Put down the phone and write an email to 'express your feelings'
Sometimes, written words make it easier for the other party to hear the voice of their heart. If you had pulled his collar and angrily asked "why" when the other party proposed a breakup, left tears and begged him to "don't leave", and sent such an email again, the other party might not even read it. You need to know that the emotional cards you play may have been known by him for a long time, just like the stress response that can be predicted by pricking a baby's arm with a needle. So, it's important to stay calm and avoid the problem lightly, so that we won't have a strong rejection and avoidance mentality when we try to retain the other party.
This email can describe the details of your time with him and the many trivial things in life, but don't express your negative emotions. In the letter, you can recall and share some of your past experiences. Remember to criticize yourself severely and let him know that you truly knew your mistake; Dig out the shining points on the other person and give them some small pride.
But at the end of the letter, there should be no expressions of pleading for a response or strongly demanding an attitude from the other party. This is a long front, and do not aspire to immediate results, but subtly influence your boyfriend. The number of emails should not be one per day. You can choose between two or three days or two per week to give each other some space and distance; It should not be too little, let the other party know the infatuation of "my heart is eternal". If you don't know how to write better, you can take a look at the previously shared article to give you more ideas to write a letter to save your boyfriend.
3
Actively participate in gatherings and activities with him, and demonstrate a sunny and cheerful spirit
The coldest emotion in the world is indifference, while the most impenetrable thing is being indifferent. When attending a party with him, don't cry and cry because of a broken relationship. Even if you feel depressed or sad, you must pretend to be sunny, cheerful, and positive. Because girls who love to laugh are the cutest, compared to girls with dusty faces, such positive energy always infects others and the one you hold onto more. During this period, you can give him some small help, such as helping to hand over items, actively sharing food, etc., but not too frequently. As long as you let him understand that you still have him in your heart, and have experienced these pains, you can still be strong and optimistic. Men prefer girls who are fresh and natural, such as those who bask in the sunshine, rather than those who suffer from setbacks and willingly fall. This will only make them understand that leaving you early is the more correct choice.
The above are the three major ways to save a boyfriend. Everyone has seen that in the future, if there is such a situation, do not use tons of tears to keep a boyfriend. When the man chooses to break up, tears are no longer something that can move him, but rather a burden on his heart. Avoid persistent fighting and attempting to use a hard attitude to make the other party aware of their mistakes. This will only narrow the path of retention and even make it impossible to turn back; Be optimistic, take it by surprise, and learn to make a soft landing. Remember: Drops of water can pierce through stones, and four taels can lift a thousand pounds. All positive actions and smiles are definitely the most effective way to deal with setbacks with half the effort, which works well for heartbreak and is also true for life.
