An unintentional beginning and an unknown ending meet in this instant.
The breakup of a couple made a big noise.
The woman invited many relatives and friends to criticize her husband's outrageous behavior in marriage in front of everyone.
"When his daughter was ill and underwent surgery, he not only ignored it, but also took half of his family's money and went to the Antarctic alone. He also called it" take more risks while young ".
"He doesn't like work, often late and leaves early. He helped him contact several companies and was dismissed or persuaded to leave. He has been supporting his family with the money I earn these years."
"He doesn't do housework at home and never remembers my daughter's birthday. I gave him a brand-name wallet on his wedding anniversary. He sold it and took the money to play mahjong."
"When I was suffering from postpartum depression and needed comfort most, he said that I pretended to be sick. When I was in the most pain, I hit my head against the wall. He also laughed at me for acting, even acting badly."
One by one, it sounds really chilling. The woman narrated calmly, while the man was ashamed and angry. In the midst of everyone's criticism and emotion, his face became more and more purple, and he could not refute all the facts. Finally, he left in a fit of anger.
At this point, divorce is irreversible. The two men quickly signed an agreement, and the man was forced to give up his house and most of his property. The child followed his mother, and the woman also said that she would not let the man see the child again, so the couple parted ways.
After a few years, we got together again, and happened to meet the man who remarried.
It is interesting that the man who was once criticized by his ex-wife as worthless now takes care of his wife and children. He poured hot water for his wife who was on holiday, carefully peeled the crab shell for her little daughter and fed her crab meat. Where is the old male chauvinism, which is self-centered and does not support when the oil bottle is down.
A good man asked his wife: How does her husband treat her? The wife immediately smiled and said, "He loves his work, works hard, takes care of his family, and is considerate. Most importantly, he also understands romance. He doesn't forget to prepare small gifts and flowers for me on all festivals. I am very happy and satisfied to marry such a person." Everyone looked at each other and could not believe that what he heard was the same person we knew.
Talking with the man about his transformation, he was embarrassed, but he still admitted that the failure of his last marriage did bring him a huge blow. So that when you fall in love again, those harsh words always come to your mind, and it is very unpleasant to think of them.
However, over time, he gradually found that his ex-wife's relentless "scar removal" had become his "love bible". He clearly understood what the other party needed most and what was most rejected when managing a relationship. Follow the plan and overcome it step by step, but slowly win the heart and achieve good results.
Later, he met his ex-wife again and talked about his second successful marriage. She was not surprised, just smiled a little sad, and then asked if we had seen a cartoon about cactus.
That cartoon: a man hugged the cactus tightly and took the thorns with him when he left; The second person who came here successfully embraced the cactus without thorns, and the ending was successful.
She said, "I know that when I first pointed out his shortcomings in front of so many people, I didn't care about his face at all. It was really too cruel. But he was like that cactus. I can do my best to take away his thorn, but if I don't make him feel pain, he can't wake up and repent.
So even if he meets the next better person, the new thorn will still grow out without restraint, and both will be injured again.
"When people are in pain, they know not to hug the cactus next time; when the cactus is in pain, they know to hold back its thorns and not to hurt the people who embrace it," she said.
We were all cacti.
When you are loved, you never hide your hurtful edge, because you have no fear, and feel that no matter how wanton you hurt, the person who hugged you will never leave.
It was not until one day that the man suddenly pulled out and left, and the most frightening thing was that the moment he broke away from each other, he was bloody and shivering with pain, and he knew what it was to lose both.
This memory goes deep into the bone marrow and will never be forgotten.
Then we met the next person, we were careful, we walked on thin ice, we began to change.
When ordering, ask others' opinions first. When singing, don't hold the microphone and don't let go. The other party's birthday, the other party's relatives' birthday, anniversary and holiday are recorded in the mobile phone reminder. Don't take a bunch of flowers and leave without knowing that there are chrysanthemums inside.
In each conversation, listen gently, look directly into the other's eyes, and feel the other's mood. The other party says "cold", not just saying "drink some water", but rushing to wait by the side; Instead of saying "your father and mother", it is a kind and tactful "our father and mother".
There will still be itchy wounds, which is the desire and struggle of the body to produce new thorns. Then bite your teeth, and Sheng Sheng will dig out the little prickle, and never suffer from it.
Because I have seen the results, I would not take any more risks.
This is what the last hugger taught us.
The best way to give is not to take away the thorn as a victim, but to make the other party feel so painful that there is no idea of thorn. Unfortunately, the woman never remarried later.