Post Date December, 03 2023
Both sexual cleanliness and sexual sin psychology have their historical roots and social backgrounds. Many people believe that sexual organs and sexual behaviors are dirty and shameful in nature.
It is believed that everything can be said except sex. This is the result of the fact that China has long been affected by feudal ideology, regarded sex as a forbidden area, and the positive publicity of sex knowledge is insufficient. Many young girls have been told that their menstruation is dirty since childhood, and they call it "dirty". Further, it has developed from being clean to being clean to any man, and then to being sexual to her husband after marriage. Some women with higher cultural level mistook spiritual sexual cleanliness as noble sentiment and deliberately pursued it, although they ran into a wall without regret. Male sex purists are affected by the superiority of men and inferiority of women. They think their sexual organs are clean, but women's are dirty. Women with sexual sin mentality have a strong view of female chastity and a strong feudal ideology of "one woman does not obey two husbands" in their minds. When they remarried, this feudal ideology reflected the sexual psychological barrier of sexual crime psychology in the form of nervousness when making love. Their purpose of telling their ex-husband about their sexual life history is actually to show that their previous sexual life is not what they want by saying that their ex-husband is selfish and that they have not enjoyed the pleasure of sexual life. They want to weaken their sexual sin psychology, seek their ex-husband's forgiveness and relieve their psychological pressure.
In order to prevent and correct these two kinds of sexual psychological barriers, we must actively publicize the knowledge of sexual physiology and sexual psychology. We should recognize that sexual behavior between husband and wife is a normal behavior. If you feel disgust, reluctance and remorse when kissing, caressing and making love between husband and wife, you should not only find the crux from the feelings of the husband and wife, but also consider whether you have sexual psychological disorders. If necessary, you can go to the psychological counseling clinic to consult a doctor, or you can use psychological desensitization therapy to replace sexual cleanliness with positive sexual enthusiasm. We should observe and be familiar with ourselves and the other party's sexual organs, so that sex life can become the common needs of couples.
Sexual cleanliness refers to the fact that the person concerned admits that the genitals and sexual behaviors of the other party meet the hygiene standards, but can't control the feeling that the other party is dirty psychologically, which causes disgust to the opposite sex and affects the sexual harmony and marital feelings. There are three types of sex purists: flesh type, spirit type and mixed type. The patients of the physical type think that the other party's genitals and even the secretion of the genitals are very dirty, so that they are forced to have sex under the state of disgust; Spiritual person is disgusted with the opposite sex, which is actually normal sexual behavior, sexual attitude and sexual speech; Mixed type is a combination of the first two types. Patients with sexual cleanliness often suspect that their partner's genitals are dirty. They not only require the other party to clean their lower body, but also use alcohol to "disinfect" and wear condoms. There are more women and fewer men with sexual cleanliness (but not unique). They are disgusted and unwilling to tolerate their husbands' sexual behavior and even their words and smiles. They not only hate their husbands' saliva, secretions and sounds, but also hate their husbands' actions, expressions and language of expressing love. Although these are all manifestations of sexual psychological disorders, many people can't realize this, but think that "the other party doesn't really love me", or think that they are "hygienic" and "tasteful", This is really sad.
The psychological disorder of sexual cleanliness mostly occurs in young couples who have not been married for too long. The psychology of sexual crimes occurs in remarried women. Women with this kind of psychological disorder often show a nervous and panic mentality when having sex with their stephusband after marriage, and often tell their stephusband about his selfishness in sexual aspects. They only care about their own satisfaction, not caring for her; In other words, I had sex with my ex-husband out of frustration. I just did my duty as a wife, so that my ex-husband could not get a good feeling in the process of sexual life, which affected the harmony of sexual life. Many stephusbands, unable to understand the psychological barrier of remarriage, mistakenly believe that the wife is missing her ex-husband, which casts a shadow over family life.
