Post Date December, 03 2023
Sexual cleanliness, as we have all heard, can also affect the healthy lives of both sexes. Although it is not "fatal", it can easily damage the relationship between couples, as high-quality married life is precisely derived from sexual life. If sexual life is not satisfactory, there is no quality to speak of. According to experts, there are three aspects of sexual cleanliness, let's take a look together.
(1) Physical Cleanliness - The psychology of cleanliness caused by unscientific attitudes towards the body of oneself or the opposite sex, especially the reproductive organs and their physiological phenomena, such as finding them ugly or dirty;
(2) Behavior Puritanism - Some women subjectively use good or bad, dignified or dissolute to distinguish their sexual behavior, and define themselves accordingly, pursuing good or dignified sexual behavior;
(3) Spiritual Puritanism - The aversion to actually normal sexual behavior, sexual expressions, or sexual speech, or the excessive pursuit of purity, blaming sexual indulgence on oneself as a dirty soul and moral degradation.
"It is not easy for ordinary people to recognize this as a sexual cleanliness addiction, let alone to understand the origin of their own or their partner's sexual cleanliness addiction, often believing that the other person must be" not loving me, or not really loving me. ""; "And my own sexual cleanliness addiction is nothing more than" hygiene ", or even" elegance ".".
Introduction to Prevention and Treatment of Sexual Cleanliness
To prevent and correct sexual cleanliness, first of all, it is necessary to correctly view sexual behavior between couples. If you feel disgusted, reluctant, and regretful when kissing, caressing, or having sex, you should not only look for the emotional crux of the couple. Instead, consider whether you may have a sexual psychological disorder. If necessary, consult a psychologist. Psychodesensitization therapy can also be used to correct sexual cleanliness, replacing it with positive sexual enthusiasm.
What are the hazards of sexual cleanliness
Sexual life is one of the most important components of couples' lives, but there is such a problem that you don't have disharmony or sexual cleanliness with the crowd during sexual life. If such a disease occurs, don't have it again. It affects not only the feelings between two people, but also the marital status of patients. What are the hazards of sexual cleanliness!
Some people have an unscientific attitude towards their reproductive organs or physiological phenomena, believing that they are ugly or dirty. The most common is that women believe that their menstrual blood is not clean and that they feel that their periods are not glorious. After marriage, some wives find their husbands' genitals "dirty," and even dislike semen. They even resent their husbands' smells, sweat, and secretions. Some women subjectively classify their sexual behavior as "good" or "bad". Couples also use this standard to regulate their behavior when making love. They hate the way their husband's hands are "touched where they shouldn't be", and they also express disgust at the way their husband expresses love.
Sexual cleanliness is a psychological disorder that can disrupt sexual harmony. Sexual cleanliness is not a matter of hygiene, but rather a person with this psychological disorder who conceptually believes that their or their partner's genitals or sexual behavior are dirty in nature, often without erasing the "dirty" sensation from their consciousness while making love. In constant conflict and pain, not only can one have sexual dysfunction, but also can cause sexual impotence in one's spouse. Sexual cleanliness is actually a product of the influence of traditional culture, with feudal consciousness such as three obedience and four virtues, male superiority and female inferiority, and sexual imprisonment being the root causes of sexual cleanliness.
People who have a sexual cleanliness habit do not regard sex as an indispensable part of their marriage life, but rather as their "obligation" or the task of inheriting their lineage, which naturally weakens the beautiful feelings of sexual life. In fact, sex itself is very noble, but it has been distorted and misunderstood by some people, especially those with strong feudal consciousness.
Female cleanliness is bad for the vulva
Some women, who originally had a healthy reproductive system, frequently used disinfectants such as traditional Chinese medicine lotions and potassium permanganate solutions to flush their vagina and vulva in order to prevent gynecological diseases. In fact, this approach may have adverse consequences instead. This is because the vagina has a "self-cleaning" effect that can protect a woman's reproductive system to a certain extent. If you flush the vagina with a disinfectant without any medication indications, it may damage the vaginal defense function. In addition, frequent use of traditional Chinese medicine lotions and potassium permanganate to wash the vulva can also reduce the resistance of the vulva skin to disease. Frequent use of potassium permanganate can also reduce skin oil and dryness, causing pruritus of the vulva.
How to Eliminate Sexual Cleanliness
The first step is to recognize its existence. Once you detect disgust, reluctance, or regret during kissing, caressing, and sex, you should review and analyze whether you have abnormal taste or smell? Do you associate or involuntarily notice something that is usually considered dirty or cleaning behavior? Do you feel touched or pay more attention to these phenomena? If so, it is necessary to carefully recall and analyze the specific details at the time and objectively evaluate whether you or the other party were sufficiently hygienic at that time. "If you have indeed become hygienic, your psychological condition includes factors related to sexual cleanliness. The stronger your aversion, the more severe your sexual cleanliness.".
Even if it is indeed due to unsanitary reasons that cause your aversion, you should continue to conduct self inspection for a period of time. After adequate hygiene, if your bad feelings still persist, there is also a sexual cleansing factor. The longer the duration, the deeper the root of sexual cleansing. However, it should be noted that any psychological adverse reactions caused by accidental circumstances should not be easily classified as sexual cleansing disorders, such as one party's illness, emotional distress, external interference, and so on.
The second step is to self explore the source of sexual cleanliness. Pay attention to analyzing your experiences during childhood and adolescence, especially how you reacted psychologically at that time, and how to recall, evaluate, or summarize them afterwards. "Some people can't recall their experiences and feelings, so it's best to review the experiences of the other person or others in turn and summarize why others don't have sexual abstinence.". Of course, it is not possible for everyone to become a psychoanalyst. Generally, it is only necessary to truly understand that one's own sexual abstinence is neither a subjective desire to form, nor any cherished self worth or spiritual pursuit. It is simply the product of certain social experiences. However, if it is important, it is necessary to consult.
The third step is to actively seek psychological desensitization. This is not to say that simply suppressing oneself and hoping for long-term patience can "become accustomed to nature", nor is it just to have an attitude like "no matter how dirty the clothes are, they will be clean after washing".
Desensitization relies on positive sexual enthusiasm to replace sexual cleanliness. The first is to observe and become familiar with one's own and the other's sexual organs; Secondly, they deliberately experience their wonderful functions, and often deepen this experience in retrospect; Then it's about connecting this experience with the best things in a couple's life. There are many specific methods, such as in-depth study of sexual anatomy, microscopic observation, self description or narration, couples sharing baths and washing each other, daily naked interaction, and so on. Of course, it is also necessary to make sexual life truly become sex.
When sexual cleanliness and such diseases occur, it is possible for couples to argue and argue. However, during the treatment process, it is important to remember that both spouses must consult with each other and encourage each other during the treatment process to try to get rid of the shadow of such a serious disease in a timely manner!
If you want to completely say goodbye to sexual cleanliness, patients should start from the patient's psychology and eliminate misconceptions in their hearts, such as dirty sexual life or unclean surroundings. And sexual partners also need to contribute, often enlightening them and correcting their sexual cleanliness step by step.
