Male college student self accusation: What should I do if my girlfriend's mother strongly opposes us being together

Perhaps I am a special questioner because we are not married yet and we are students from the same university. Because of an accidental encounter, I met and fell in love.

We have been together for 300 days now, and we used to get along very well at school. Even though she has a small temper every time, I always coax her and treat her incredibly well. She herself says she has never met a boyfriend like me, and compared to other people's boyfriends in her dormitory, she also thinks that I am doing things more carefully and thoughtfully.

I thought we would always be good, but when her mother found out about this, she strongly opposed us. Her mother had helped her fortune telling and said she couldn't marry to the south. That's not good. I am XX, and compared to XX, I am called the so-called south. After all, superstition is superstition. Although her mother always says that my home is far away, she gets sick in the car and doesn't want her daughter to marry far away. Coupled with this superstition, her mother strongly opposes it. Every time I come home from vacation, it's my nightmare. Her mother advises her at home for three days or two.

I think she and I have developed quite quickly. Normally, our relationship is definitely about loving each other, but she hesitated a bit when encouraged by her mother. She wasn't so determined about love, but she still couldn't bear me and was wandering around. This long vacation, her mother asked me to visit her house before going to school, and then go to school with her. I was wondering what to do this time and how to gain her mother's trust?

Her dowry is much more expensive than ours, and she also has requirements for a room. I also have a lot of pressure, but I am not afraid of this. I always think that I will make money in the future, but some things once missed, money cannot buy back, so I don't want to lose her. Ask Brother Shan for help. What should I do specifically to go this time? thank you!

reply:

I can see that you and your girlfriend are both college students, right? Now that you haven't graduated yet, even if your girlfriend's mother doesn't stop you, do you really believe that you will be able to achieve success after graduation? Is college love really reliable and can it withstand various tests? This requires you to think deeply. Being on campus is one thing, going out to society is another. The future is full of uncertainty for you, so don't be too eager for success. Emotions are sometimes better left to nature.

Of course, I don't object to you being together, nor do I want to intentionally attack you. I just want to remind you that in the face of emotions, especially in the process of passionate love, it may be better to have a little more reason and calmness, and it's best not to blindly go deep alone. So, in the face of the strong opposition from your girlfriend's mother, you don't have to be too considerate and serious. You can just behave yourself normally. When you see your girlfriend's mother, you should be neither humble nor arrogant, and be impartial. Being enthusiastic is always necessary, and bringing some tangible gifts is also necessary. There is no need to try to please, just show yourself truly, and achieve the minimum respect and courtesy of a younger generation.

In fact, as a young person, the best way to win the trust of parents is to do it bit by bit, solidly, pay attention to every word, behavior, and detail of oneself. More importantly, it is still through your girlfriend's continuous affirmation and praise of you. No parent does not respect their daughter's feelings and choices. As long as you are sincere and kind to your girlfriend, and the relationship between you two is fine, then as a parent, sooner or later you will be accepted.