Post Date December, 02 2023
Why is it so difficult to marry someone you like?
Very simple, that is, you want to marry for love, but you don't have the ability to let the person you like marry you, but you despise the person who is willing to marry you. Everyone has different ideas. I don't think marriage is a necessary process in life. So if you don't really want to get married, you don't need to read this article. Please don't be knocked down by the mother-in-law around you.
Why does the other party have no intention of marriage when it comes to marriage? No matter what reason the other party said, what hasn't wanted to get married yet, hasn't wanted to settle down yet, and wants to fight for a career... unless he is a lifelong bachelor, otherwise, the truth is mostly whether he doesn't want to get married or doesn't want to get married with you. When you need to decide whether to continue this relationship by marriage, usually your relationship has been broken down by 50%.
Some people, whose purpose is to get married, are very clear about what they want. They will be very clear about the goal of marriage. As long as they are not suitable for marriage, they will immediately change to another one, without any delay. But although you may also want to get married, your situation is that you want everything. You don't want to give up anything, but you have no ability to take everything. The people we talked about earlier are those who know to give up, don't insist on marrying someone, and respect others' will not want to marry, so it is easy to achieve the purpose of marriage.
Why can't you marry someone you like? The reasons are as follows:
Have an excessive fantasy about marriage
A person will persist in marriage because he thinks that after marriage, the degree of satisfaction must be higher than that of himself now. We people will not cling to something that is dispensable for us. It must be this thing that can reduce the pain of our life now, or we will cling to it because we think it will reduce our anxiety.
I think marriage is beautiful, but marriage is only a decision. It is not a symbol of beauty. It has the opportunity to bring beauty, but it depends on the person who gets married, not the marriage itself. If you only have a good understanding of marriage itself, and only expect good things to happen, then the people who have married you in the future will be very painful. Because the reality is mixed.
When we expect too much of a thing, when we encounter a reality gap, we will have emotions. The more romantic fantasies you have, the more disappointed you will be. Men are very practical about marriage. After marriage, they will face more challenges in life. If they find a woman who has excessive fantasies about marriage, life will be his mother tired. Why should everything be beautiful, and they will be dissatisfied with nothing. What men finally associate with is a woman who only complains and puts on a bad face all day.
Think marriage is the turning point of life
Women who persist in marriage are apt to fall into the trap. The reason for a happy marriage is because of marriage, not because this person has the ability to bring happiness to herself.
Women who have a high degree of satisfaction in marriage usually have a high degree of satisfaction before marriage. It has nothing to do with marriage or not. For them, marriage is just a decision and has nothing to do with the change of life.
They will insist that marriage is the source of love and sense of belonging, and the source is because they can't give themselves love and sense of belonging. They hope that after marrying someone, their previously unsatisfied life will suddenly become satisfied.
So a person who can't give himself love and feels that only marriage can make him happy will be blocked from the door of marriage by those who have the ability to take care of themselves and give love. Otherwise, he will also be attracted to the object who thinks that only marriage can make him happy, and the result is that they consume energy with each other.
Can't give yourself love, so it's easy to prove to the other party
Sticking to marriage is because you think that if you marry someone to be happy, you will always ask for it from that person, thinking about your own affairs all day long, hoping that the other party can show their love behavior. As soon as the other party becomes cold, you will be very worried and in a bad mood, thinking about whether the other party has become unloved?
What can we do to make the other person become as enthusiastic as before? Why doesn't the other party want to stay with me? Why doesn't the other party want to marry me? I hope the other party can love me more, pay more attention to me, and coax me
Yes, it's all me and me. There is no one else in your life except yourself. Who would want to marry you? It's all men who want to coax you. It's all men who want to prove that they love you very much, but you can't give yourself anything. It's just that line only returns a map, and it's annoying for a long time. Just thinking of spending the rest of your life with such people makes the whole person tremble. Who has time to deal with your insecurity after marriage? Your mood? And you also put all the happiness of life on the marriage with men. The pressure is not so great that you lose your hair!
Men also need the feeling of being loved, and also need to feel that the woman in front of them can take care of themselves, so that they can safely rely on you, but if you send out that you don't marry me, I will be miserable! How can he unload his psychological burden when facing you? Instead, you have become more of a burden.
The prerequisite for dating a man is whether he is an ideal marriage partner
When you are too attached to marriage, you will subconsciously choose the good objects that can avoid unhappy marriage. When you develop relationships with others, you will also start to filter others with your own filters, such as how much money you need, whether your original family does not need care, whether you have a car or a house, whether you want to get married, whether you want to have children, etc
If you want to know this information as soon as possible, then for a man, he will feel that he is just a tool for you to achieve your marriage purpose. You just want to find someone to fill the position or share your financial pressure, not because I want to get married. It's like a man who wants to get married makes you feel like a tool for giving birth. No one likes to be picked like furniture. A man will feel like a tool for marriage.
Only when a man thinks that you want to marry because of him, not because of his idea, can he want to marry with you, and then he thinks that marriage is meaningful, and that it is meaningful for him to stay with you.
But you may take love as the packaging, and think that I love you so much that I want to marry you and spend my whole life with you! But do you really love him? I believe that the power of love is very powerful and attractive, but why push the other side away in the end? Either there is something wrong with love itself, or the love you say on your lips is not love at all, but just words to satisfy your desire and avoid fear. If you really love each other, how can you not know when the other person doesn't want to spend your life with you? Or have you never noticed the other party and just want to satisfy your feelings of being loved and accepted?
Please remember that the relationship is mutual, and we should have mutual understanding, not that you think you have each other, but that the other party only wants to escape, that is not mutual at all, just your fantasy. If you often associate with each other until you finally find that the other party doesn't want to talk about marriage with you, you should be glad that the man in front of you is actually responsible.
