Post Date December, 03 2023
[Q]
I don't understand what my husband has to complain about. I earn more money and do better than him at home. I don't need him to worry about everything. What's not enough? What else does he want?
Our family, which is an ordinary family, has a slight surplus and is at ease when it is small. I worked as a lecturer in a teaching and research institution. My monthly income is quite considerable. My husband is an employee of the enterprise. He sounds like a white-collar worker. In fact, he is a part-time worker. He gets his salary every month and turns it over to the family. I am quite open-minded to him. I don't require him to pay me the full amount of his salary. He can pay half of it. The rest is at his own disposal. I just ask, is this also a public invitation to him to save private money? I thought my husband wouldn't use his head.
I'm wrong. Heaven is better than man. He doesn't cherish our family at all. Everyone else is envious. They all say that he has a good wife, beautiful and can earn money. Only he doesn't make progress all day long. I don't think so. I'm busy with my work. For a long time, we didn't have a roommate, and I didn't notice.
It wasn't until a friend reminded me that I saw my husband walking along the street with other women's hands and told me to pay attention, that I realized that he was silent and ignored me for a long time.
But I can't believe that he has a woman outside. I asked him for a showdown, and he flatly denied the affair. I love him. I don't want to get divorced. What should I do with my children? But I was very painful for him to treat us like this.
[Answer]
A man's denial of extramarital affairs means that he doesn't want his behavior to damage his marriage.
This marriage has kept his self-esteem to a minimum. If you are a big woman and can work hard and make money, must he be a little man? It can be seen that you have a low evaluation of him. He can't feel the slightest confidence here. He has been oppressed for a long time. He wants to take a breath.
His way is wrong, and your attitude should not be overbearing. First of all, the one-sided words of outsiders are for reference only. What is the fact? It needs further understanding. Second, after years of marriage, you still don't know how to put two people in the right position in the marriage. If both parties are willing, the combination of strong and weak is good, but if one party is unwilling, the combination of strong and weak will inevitably lead to disharmonious notes in the marriage.
