Post Date December, 02 2023
The cultural river that has lasted for thousands of years is constantly advancing and improving, and although the status of women has also made a significant leap, unequal treatment still appears in many situations. In the past few days, the group has been buzzing about marital matters, especially the issue of infidelity. This is almost a serious undercurrent in marital problems, as it seems that couples with incompatible relationships cannot do without infidelity and emotional entanglement.
Of course, this is just one reason, the main reason that ultimately leads to the end of marriage. In fact, there are many reasons why marriage can continue. Men and women in marriage will eventually go their separate ways for various reasons. Whether men cheat or women cheat, they will also find a reason for themselves.
In fact, regardless of which party's infidelity occurs in a marriage, it is a heavy blow and a fatal pain to the other half of the marriage. However, society is so unfair. If a man cheats, 90% of wives will choose to forgive their husband and maintain this marriage. If a woman cheats, then the family seems to have encountered the most terrifying natural and man-made disasters, and 90% of families will break down as a result.
Women who cheat usually have only two outcomes.
One is divorce.
Whether you have children or not, whether a woman is wrong or not, most men will choose to divorce and hardly give women a second choice. Why is this? Because men want face more than women. Traditionally, it is normal for men to cheat and have sex, but women must keep their empty rooms alone. If a woman cheats, it will be heinous and even more likely to be criticized by the world. Men can talk about their romantic life among their friends without being ostracized by their friends. Then women cheat and are cautious, afraid of letting others know. Men have a deep hatred towards Green Hat, feeling that they can never lift their heads in the social circle. Only after this woman who has climbed out of the wall can they lift their heads again among their friends.
Children do not become a factor for men to forgive women, because in most families, children are taken care of and loved by women. Most men's feelings for their children are far and far from the love that women bring from their mothers. As the saying goes, men lead the outside, and women lead the inside. We have always been accustomed to this mode of thinking. Men believe that children should obey adults, while women believe that children are meant for love. Because men and women have different thoughts, children are not the reason for forgiveness.
Another reason why men are unwilling to easily forgive women is because they feel that women who cheat are licentious and inherently mean. They believe that such women marry themselves because they have made a mistake, and when they discover that a woman is cheating, it is the day to correct their mistakes. They believe that if a woman cheats once, there will be another one. They use men's thinking to define women who cheat, and they are very unlikely to trust women again.
Secondly, the seemingly detached marital relationship.
A small number of men choose to remain silent after discovering a woman's infidelity. Even if they are angry, they try to hide their inner hurt and hope that this marriage can continue. One is that a man really loves this woman. Although a woman has cheated, he feels that he cannot do without this woman no matter what, and can only choose to forgive. There is also a type of man who is weak, they rely on a woman to survive. If a woman cheats, he has no right to choose. No matter how unwilling he is in his heart, even if a woman wants to divorce, he is unwilling. Another type of man, who is relatively rational and able to understand people, abandons traditional male thinking, analyzes things rationally, and makes decisions after deep discussions with women.
But regardless of whether a man chooses to compromise and continue married life. In the depths of a man's heart, a woman's infidelity deeply hurts him. Although they say I forgive you, their physical intimacy and trust in life will be greatly affected. Some men no longer have the desire to have sex with their wives, some choose to use infidelity to retaliate, some men can't help but distance themselves from the relationship they originally had with their wives, and some men only consider this woman as a nanny in their own family, and so on.
After a woman's infidelity, regardless of whether she is forgiven or not, the outcome is always sad. Once a woman makes a mistake, her heart will be filled with anxiety and a sense of guilt towards her husband and children. Any actions taken by a man at this time can only be blamed by the woman for having made the mistake first.
This is probably the place where women find the most unfair. After a man is forgiven for cheating, there seems to be no significant change in family life. However, when a woman cheats, the change in family life is from inside out. In fact, whether a woman is cheating or a man is cheating, one must think deeply before acting. Do not bully a kind-hearted partner, nor harm innocent people, especially children, in marriage.
If you are truly disappointed with this marriage and your family, it's better to simply go out. Cheating is really an unbearable game, but reality is always too complex, and the story of cheating will continue to evolve
