Post Date December, 03 2023
Wives and wives often complain, "He's just a wall, he doesn't respond to pushing!" "He never tells me his thoughts, and I'm getting less and less familiar with him!"? How to Read the Words of a Man
The subtext of a man's love story!
Strangely, these husbands and husbands who have been heavily accused of "silence crimes", I would also be filled with grievances: "Why didn't I say it? I've said it 100 times, but she couldn't understand it herself!" "I've already expressed it so clearly, she doesn't even care!" "You've been in contact with me for so few minutes, and you can know my thoughts and feelings. She's with me every day, but she's not as good as an outsider understanding me. What else do you think I have to say?"
What men and women need more may be a "translator" - helping them translate "male language" into "female language" and "hidden language" into "explicit language" for each other.
The first latent language
On weekends, with your husband working overtime and feeling bored, you simply participated in the "Husband and Wife Relationship Training Course" recommended by your friends, learned a lot of communication and expression skills, and felt good about yourself. You were only waiting for him to come home for you to practice military. Finally, he came back and sank into the sofa. You warmly walked forward and asked, "You're back? How's today?" He said, "It's okay. You continued to ask, "Okay? What does that mean?" He said, "It's not that interesting." You were a bit angry, but still showed 10 times more patience and persisted, "What does' not mean '?" He suddenly got up and entered the study without saying a word, leaving you alone in the living room.
Your misunderstanding: "He must be hiding something from me, otherwise why would he avoid me
Your feelings: anger, suspicion, sadness
Your behavior: arguing or being angry
Your relationship: gradually becoming a 'enemy advance and retreat type'
However, if you are willing to check the latent language dictionary, you will find:
His original intention: "Dear, I'm tired and don't want to talk now. I need to be alone for a while, adjust my brain's gear shift, and then get closer to you." Your feeling: calm, cherish, and looking forward
Your behavior: Sitting quietly next to him for a while, waiting for him and you to enter the same frequency
Your relationship: Hello, hello, tacit and warm
I fall in love with a woman other than my own wife, not necessarily because my marriage is unhappy or I love this extramarital woman too much
Second latent language
Today is your mother's 60th birthday. In the past, when his parents had birthdays, you were always busy preparing gifts. This time, you thought that he should also take the initiative to show filial piety like you did to his parents. So, you started reminding him in his ear very early... However, when you woke up in the morning, you began to inquire about the gifts with enthusiasm. Unexpectedly, he immediately took out a pile of money and stuffed it into your hand, Your face suddenly changed.
Your misunderstanding: "He's completely perfunctory! He didn't even care about my mother
Your feelings: disappointment, grievance, imbalance
Your behavior: criticism, attack, negation
Your relationship: gradually becoming "police thief type"
If you look up the latent language dictionary again, you will find:
His original intention: "You are still the best at buying gifts. You have done better than me, and all the family's reciprocity is left to you
Your feelings: understanding, confidence, and happiness
Your behavior: give him a kiss, buy a gift, and go with him to visit his mother
Your relationship: gradually becoming 'resource complementary'
The third latent language
A famous symphony orchestra from abroad came to perform, and it was not easy for you to get two tickets. You eagerly invited him to come with you, but halfway through the performance, you found him dozing off next to you, and you couldn't help but fly into a rage!
Your misunderstanding: "He has too little taste and doesn't give me face
Your feeling: awkwardness, resentment
Your behavior: wake him up, squint at him, rush home as soon as the performance is over, without saying a word to him
Your relationship: gradually becoming a 'high and low profile'
The hidden language dictionary wants to tell you:
His original intention: "Dear, although I don't like symphonies, I am still willing to be by your side
Your feelings: happiness, satisfaction, respect
Your behavior: Hold his hand and prevent him from falling under the seat
Your relationship: seeking common ground while reserving differences
The fourth latent language
You love him very much and hope to create a warm and lovely little home for him. So, besides going to work, you almost spend all your time and energy on home care: the sofa is flat and tidy, the floor is spotless, everything is in place, the patterns are not messy, and the air is always filled with the fragrance of plant essential oil, even the shoes you change at the door, You would also ask him to always place his head in the same way... But, for some reason, every day after work, he seems increasingly unwilling to go home early
Your misunderstanding: 'He has an affair!'
Your feelings: doubt, pain, despair
Your behavior: checking your phone, inquiring about information from his colleagues, directly questioning him
Your relationship: gradually becoming a 'fake to real' type
His hidden language dictionary tells you:
His original intention: "I think you ask too much of me. As soon as I get home, I'm afraid of making mistakes and don't relax at all... I think for you, the sofa, floor... everything is more important than me, so I don't want to go home
Your feeling: Apologies, sudden realization
Your behavior: Pay more attention to and respect his feelings, no longer shouting and screaming when he litters, making home a truly relaxing place
Your relationship: relaxed and comfortable
