Post Date December, 03 2023
I have been married to my husband for four years. In the past four years, everything has been very good, impeccable, and only once. This is also the only flaw in our married life. He doesn't know yet.
The flaw is that I was crazy once. While traveling on a business trip with my husband, I went to find a man I had a crush on. We spent the night in a hotel, kissing and hugging, but it didn't happen. "I don't know if I should tell my husband about this episode of infidelity. Regardless of the outcome, whether together or divorced, I struggle with this issue. Should I confess?"?
Ms. Chen:
For a married woman, it's best to never say anything about the man you've loved in your life, except for your husband. Say it, you're in big trouble. In the days to come, you will find your husband's inexplicable temper tantrums in the market, without any reason, leaving you confused. It's true that men, like women, often fantasize about their wife's past "love history" in their heads. The more they think about it, the more angry they feel, and the more they think about it, the more shameless they feel. At least, for the vast majority of mediocre but energetic Chinese men, this is a unified standard.
Like you said, it's just "hugging and kissing" with that man, but can your husband really believe that? Even if he truly believed it, his heart would be filled with thoughts about the words "hug and kiss" and the actions: How did they hug? How did they kiss? Why are they just hugging and kissing? Is it really just a hug and kiss? Didn't she hide anything else from me? Don't think he won't be so careful. "If it were you, my husband would tell you that suddenly one day he ran to a distant city and hugged a woman he loved and came back, you wouldn't believe it for sure.". Your mind will also be filled with thoughts.
Since you also understand that it is impossible for that man to divorce you, and you have no intention of divorcing your husband, it is best to keep this matter a secret. There are some things between husband and wife that you'd better never say. Just like what happened to you now. Perhaps, now he can temporarily forgive you, but there is no father or wife in the world who does not fight. Once you start a war, this will be a serious handle you hold in his hand. Women, as they grow older, they will only become increasingly vulnerable in marriage. Since this is the physiological rule, it requires you to try to make yourself more "impeccable" in their eyes.
