A few days ago, the 2009 Survey Report on the Status of Marriage and Love among Chinese People jointly released by the China Marriage and Family Research Association of the All-China Women's Federation, the Marriage Industry Committee of the China Social Work Association and Baihe.com showed that 80% of single men and women aged 25-40 were "unhappy". Wang Zhiguo, an expert, reminded that behind the unhappiness of "leftover men and women", there are negative emotions such as irritability, anxiety, and even depression. The past February 14 has become a high incidence of anxiety among singles.
Wang Zhiguo pointed out that with the increase of age, their love opportunities will be less and less. According to the survey data, from the age of 30 for women and from the age of 34 for men, the chances of marriage have plummeted.
At the same time, the Spring Festival is a day for family reunion. The pressure from family and public opinion has exacerbated the "unhappiness" of older singles, and anxiety has become a group mentality.
On the other hand, most older singles have had imperfect love experiences. Wang Zhiguo analyzed that these love experiences will leave a feeling of emotional frustration in a broken love relationship, which lurks in people's hearts. Once stimulated, depression will erupt. Especially during the Spring Festival, parents' urge to "find another girlfriend (boyfriend) as soon as possible" will make them afraid to go home.
Single people on the Internet have a little frustration at their jokes. Unmarried people aged 27 to 28 are called "leftover fighters"; 29-30-year-old people are called "leftover customers"; 31-35 years old are called "Duzhan Remaining Buddha"; Those over 35 years of age are honored as "Qitian Dayu".
Fan Aitian, secretary-general of the China Marriage and Family Research Association of the All-China Women's Federation, pointed out that the main problem many people face in choosing a mate is the ambiguity and impetuosity of their marriage and love view. It is urgent to solve the group anxiety disorder of "leftover men and women", help them establish a positive, sunny and confident attitude of choosing a mate, and enhance their affinity and attraction to the opposite sex.
In addition, it is also a compulsory course for them to learn to decompress themselves and relieve anxiety by diverting their attention. Spring has arrived. They can also brighten their mood by taking the initiative to enter the nature, exercising more and contacting the sun more.