Post Date December, 03 2023
Netizens:
My boyfriend and I have known each other for more than two years. Recently, he proposed to me, but one thing kept me from making up my mind. My boyfriend never gives me a promise. For example, I asked him, "Will you love me forever?" He always replied, "I will try to love you." Excuse me, is a man who dare not even promise worth relying on?
Experts:
In fact, there are many ways to express commitment, and what you say is just a verbal commitment. There are too many realities that tell us that commitments in action are more stable and credible than commitments in words. For mature men, they rarely make promises easily, and more often do it first and then say it. Therefore, I think it is one-sided and impetuous to judge whether a man loves you only by verbal commitment. Take your question "Will you love me forever?" for example, the question itself may be a matter full of variables, because there are many ways of love, including love and kinship, and how far is forever, which is not what a truly responsible mature man is willing to face directly.
In real life, we can often see that some men can talk about everything in a dazzle before marriage, and coax women into being happy. However, not long after marriage, their promises turned into lies, and even the most basic marital responsibilities and obligations were gone. Of course, women all like to listen to sweet words, but in reality, women had better consider the promise of men carefully according to his actual situation, and don't be confused by verbal promises.
However, as a couple who are about to get married, a man should not be too rigid. It is better to give some commitments appropriately, such as his hopes for marriage and family responsibilities. For women, this is actually an encouragement.
