Many young people follow their current feelings, live in the present, and enjoy every moment of love. They can love to death in an instant, but they can quickly break up as if they don't know each other. Flash marriage and divorce have become synonymous with the post-80s generation. The love and marriage of the 80s generation are no longer as simple as those of the 60s and 70s, and the adulteration in their marriages is too serious.
The hidden rules of marriage after the 1980s:
Underlying Rule One: Treat love as a career chip
In the past, a woman's marriage seemed like just a bargaining chip, but now can it really make a woman no longer like a weight? Many parents, guided by the noble principle of thinking for the future, boldly design marriages for their children, but it has become a stumbling block on the road to happiness. They have no right to fall in love and can only be placed as a bargaining chip in the grand wedding hall.
Underlying Rule 2: Sell Yourself in Marriage
Men looking for women, women looking for men, may have another purpose behind true love. Perhaps the man has a crush on the nobleman in the woman's family, or the woman has a crush on the man's wealth. While men and women engage in this kind of gaming relationship, they overlook one thing: they have already sold themselves in marriage, and it is a "cheap" sale.
Hidden Rule Three: Pawning Love into Money and Power
Chinese marriage may not have been separated from this reality since ancient times. I have always been amazed to think that the past official system caused all this. Why do we have to be in the right family? Such a marriage must be very happy. When love is sold to money and power, then love has become like a spoiled fruit full of parasites.
Hidden Rule Four: Marry for a House
Nowadays, although everyone has a car and a house, after reading the newspaper's marriage advertisement, most men introduce themselves to having a house and a car. When it comes to this generation, having a house and a car is not necessarily a rare thing. A house must have a villa, and a car must have at least four circles. Otherwise, if someone comes in and out, they will feel embarrassed when they marry, and their parents are also reluctant to give you their daughter.
Hidden Rule 5: Flash Marriage and Divorce
Nowadays, young people are not afraid of getting married because divorce is not a loss of life, just like many strange things. So they aim to challenge their love skills, skills, and learn the classic of love through trial marriage. So there is a trend of "getting red on Wednesday and getting green on Friday". I don't know how many times this generation of young people must try to get married before they can grow up.
Hidden Rule 6: Loveless Marriage
I don't know in which era in the past, people used to get married first and then cultivate their emotions. Later, as time passed, this phenomenon became increasingly "bad". However, from recent observations, it seems that there is an urge to have an erection. Both men and women do not express their true feelings towards each other, but rather use a twisted and hypocritical pretense to express their love.
Hidden Rule 7: Meeting Parents' Expectations
More and more parents are looking forward to unmarried comrades getting married while they are young, but more and more of them are being squeezed by reality and have to give up their marriage. In order to make a living and create more beauty, they choose not to fall in love, let alone engage in marriage. Therefore, this has led to the phenomenon of high paying "renting boyfriends" and "hiring girlfriends" during holidays in the past. The same phenomenon exists in marriage, which is "fake marriage".
Hidden Rule 8: Challenging the "Stimulus" of First Marriage
Married based on the principle of "fear of marriage", perhaps just to challenge the excitement brought by first marriage, or just to prove that one can end this boundary, marriage has become a fashion in the hearts of more young people. Moreover, marriage can often solve the pressure and depression in life and psychology, greatly preventing the manifestation of disconnection from reality.