The four main reasons why women are deeply trapped in extramarital affairs and find it difficult to extricate themselves

I have fallen in love with that man who is twelve years older than me. We both have a family and live happily ever after. Aborting him is the thing I regret the most. I once thought about giving him a child, but he probably got scared. He is a car coach, and many women have been flirting with him on his phone. I've really been tormented by my own ignorance and childishness for a while now. You're right, he's really ruthless and has fallen in love with others. Perhaps he's been playing with me from beginning to end, while I've been living in my so-called love. My heart is blocked and I feel a bit unwilling. I feel sorry for my efforts over the past six months. Has it just disappeared? Can't find a sense of balance! I really don't know what to do now? I broke up with him and he didn't care at all. He didn't keep me, his heart was so cruel. I was not happy to tie the knot, and I hope Brother Shan can help me. Thank you, anonymous!

I dare not go out now, afraid of seeing everything related to him! He's looking for me again now, but he can't have it. I really don't want to waste it anymore. He keeps saying goodbye, but in fact, he doesn't like me. He just doesn't admit it. I don't know why I always can't find a sense of balance. I want to leave him, and I want him to know that it's because he doesn't like me that he left. I'm so conflicted! Actually, I don't like him, so I want him to feel guilty about me!

How can we completely separate? It's so congested, Brother Shan. Could you please help me open my heart. His ambiguous information made me see, and my mind was filled with what he had said to others. Brother Shan, teach me how to leave him!

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Whenever the topic of extramarital affairs is touched upon, especially in the face of letters from female readers, it always makes people sigh and feel helpless. In the face of various confidences, one can only mourn their misfortune and remain angry. An extramarital affair is like a castle full of nostalgia and thorns, with a continuous influx of people from outside the city at every moment; In the city, those who accidentally enter their path often suffer deeply and are unable to extricate themselves.

Extramarital affairs tempt those who cannot resist the temptation and torment those who seek to torment themselves without any worries!

In terms of extramarital affairs, it is women who ultimately suffer; For women, getting rid of the troubles of extramarital affairs often requires a self painful struggle. Why is it so difficult for women to extricate themselves from extramarital affairs? What are the fundamental triggers? It's actually what you said yourself: unwilling.

Many times, in extramarital affairs, men can easily control the game of extramarital affairs and choose to enter or exit at will because they are relatively rational and can think freely; Women, on the other hand, cannot achieve such a natural and unrestrained self transformation because they slowly fall into the trap of pursuing the "process", which is completely different from men actively pursuing the "result with a clear and simple purpose".

The reason why women are deeply trapped and unable to extricate themselves in extramarital affairs is because: firstly, they are not willing to give up in vain, secondly, they are not willing to be easily dumped, thirdly, they are not willing to let their emotions drift, and fourthly, they are not willing to make a comeback and become a loser. In fact, it is all unwillingness that ultimately becomes a curse that binds oneself, making oneself even more lost and vulnerable, enduring greater torment and harm.

If you continue to entangle yourself, you will sink deeper into this distorted emotion. I hope you can keep yourself awake. Since you have already understood your childishness and ignorance, why can't you let it go. Knowing that the other person is flirting with a lot of the opposite sex, knowing that the other person is playing with you, and even letting oneself fall deeply in love with a scumbag, isn't it too abusive and disrespectful. Furthermore, both you and he have a family and a marriage, and fortunately, they both live happily. Why should we indulge ourselves and trample on our dignity when we live happily?

So, it's not difficult to completely separate from each other, it's just a decision; There is no good way to completely separate from the other party, but to force oneself to give up on the other party. If you can't do it, then you can only continue to torture yourself and hurt yourself.