Post Date December, 03 2023
Women's secrets are usually written in diaries, locked in drawers, or even whispered in the ear of close friends in their girlfriends... What about men? Usually in the heart. Women's secrets often need to be shared, while men's secrets are so secretive that they can only be chewed carefully by themselves. If you are a woman who loves him, you must first know what secrets he has that are untouchable "private property", and may also be his hidden secrets.
Secret 1: His emotional record
JACKY, 32, project manager of the company - Before getting married, I had a girlfriend who broke up for various reasons. I was in great pain for a while until I fell in love and married my current wife. "I have never told my wife about my past love experience, but she doesn't know what she has heard and keeps pestering me about it. Sometimes when I accidentally neglect her, she asks me with jealousy and grievance, 'How did you treat her in the past?'"? Won't you be so indifferent to me? I'm at a loss. "I really want to tell her not to be so interested in my past in the future, but I'm afraid she'll misunderstand me even more. I don't know how to speak up.".
Men's thoughts: Almost every man has a colorful emotional life, but in a man's heart, "the woman of the past" and "the woman of the present" are people from two planets. Men are unwilling to tell women all this, not because men are ashamed of it, but because men believe that women who are more cultured are jealous. If a man exposes his "ugliness", will there be a good life in the future? Therefore, all this has become an extremely repressive secret for men.
Women's response: Let his emotional experience become a dust-laden past. Set his secret as a "minefield" in your heart and remind yourself not to involve it at all times. Even if you hear a few words, don't dig into the bottom. What good is your stubbornness and meanness except for evoking his memories and even recalling the benefits of that "she"? Smart women know not to dig their own traps.
·Key words: 1. Broken love: I didn't mention a word because I lost face. 2. Online love: Men will not admit this kind of behavior that is not very aboveboard. 3. Affair: Only when there is a feeling of stealing do men feel wonderful, and the best way to enjoy it is to keep it as a secret.
4. Admiration: For married men, this is even more a secret they keep quiet about.
Secret 2: Various "feminization" psychological needs
Cui Tao, 36 years old, Vice President of the company - in the eyes of many people, I am a so-called "successful person": I have a high salary, a big house, and a famous car. In fact, I also have secrets that are unknown to everyone. For example, when I am tired from hard work, I also want to rest on my wife's shoulder; If you hold back your grievances and heartache outside, you will also want to cry bitterly; Sometimes I also want to live carefree like a child, or act coquettishly... but I'm afraid that my wife's knowledge will affect my "brilliant" image in her mind.
Man's idea: In terms of individual life, men are actually more vulnerable than women, but both women and men formalize and absolutize men. It seems that men mean masculinity, toughness, pragmatism, carelessness, and slovenliness... In fact, men also have many unknown "feminization needs", but these are secrets that only do not say, and women can't even open up and take a closer look.
Women's response: Men are "face saving" animals who enjoy women's appreciation and adoration. Therefore, this secret of men is very subtle and cannot be easily solved. A woman only needs to face it calmly, understand it, and understand it in her heart. Never talk about it in the mouth, let alone encourage him to be "weak" or "childish" because of love. Otherwise, a man will think that you have underestimated him, which is unbearable to him; His love for vanity and infamous beauty is also a tacit matter, which will only make him angry and ashamed.
·Key words: 1. Vanity: It is difficult to make more money in your pocket, but it is much easier to make yourself look like a wealthy person.
2. Weakness: Men also have a weak side, but this cannot be disclosed.
3. Stinky Beauty: Men generally don't admit to dressing up when they die, which is also a "secret" of men.
Childishness: It seems like being naughty, but it's actually being coquettish, but it's not suitable for large-scale development.
Secret 3: The so-called "man's own business"
Liu Ming, 30 years old, a media journalist - In my spare time after work, I often gather with a group of friends to chat about the mountains and drink some wine, feeling very comfortable. "But my wife is always uneasy, and sometimes I have to make several phone calls all night to chase after her: Where are you?"? With whom? What are you doing? Make people not tired of it. And she always asks about my work. I know she did it because she cared, but I really don't want her to interfere too much in my own affairs.
Men's ideas: Women are skilled in detail, like communication, love asking questions, and even dig into the details. Men, on the other hand, often feel that it's their own business, and women don't have to make a fuss about it, because men have to handle their own business.
Women's response: When a husband needs you to be his wife, don't try to be his work and life planner. Everyone has a psychological need to have their own living space, and men are naturally no exception. Therefore, a wise choice for a woman is: let him go crazy, what kind of friends, work conditions... his "private plots", let him cultivate them!
·Key words: 1. Work status: Some work matters need to be kept secret in order not to bring daytime events into the night. Therefore, men do not like women interfering.
2. Entertainment: Men like to play with same-sex friends, but they don't like women getting involved.
Dream of becoming rich: The desire to become rich overnight is almost every man's dream, but they also have to do it behind their wives' backs, hoping to one day give their beloved woman a big surprise.
Secret 4: Sexual Anxiety
ANSON, 40 years old, a company employee - my wife and I are relatively harmonious, but I always have involuntary worries and anxieties... But I don't want my wife to know about these anxieties, let alone mention them voluntarily.
Men's thoughts: Sex is a lifelong event for men, and they care very much. Sex is an important cornerstone of a man's self-esteem and self-confidence. No matter what kind of man, he is unwilling to admit his incompetence in sexual matters. Men have more or less experienced anxiety about their abilities. But this is a big secret that women should not know.
Women's response: Behind men, there have been struggles. Therefore, the appreciation and trust from a wife is the best "Viagra" for a man. Regardless of the reason for the "decline" in his condition, as a wife, one should remain calm on the surface, let alone complain.
"I am sick": The safest rule is not to say anything even if I die!
