Post Date December, 03 2023
Maturity does not mean being untrue or lying, but some white lies come from maturity and are still respected. However, regardless of goodwill or malice, lies are ultimately lies, and goodwill and malice are only a matter of motivation. Maturity represents the objective existence of such lies between each other, and goodwill and malice are only a matter of interest.
Nowadays, many women are fond of mature men, which has gradually made romantic relationships a trend. Even now, many girls are willing to lower their many conditions in order to marry mature men. Even one day, I heard a strange news that Beijing female college students are vying to marry a 40 year old tricycle driver.
The author has always been less optimistic about maturity. Maturity is what it means. Maturity means losing a lot of youthful emotions and pure thinking. Maturity is a form of integration and adaptation. I believe that being a man requires not maturity, but wisdom. There are many mature people, but few are wise. (Note: The maturity referred to by the author here refers to the narrow sense of maturity, which means a deep understanding of secular life without great vision.).
Let's talk about the five major hazards of mature men in the traditional sense:
1. Maturity overshadows love
It can be said that maturity is the natural enemy of love. In love, there is no need to be too mature. Maturity allows love to skip many steps and also reduce a bit of romance. Love is an experience, an experience of savoring the ups and downs of exploration. It's like a thought-provoking movie, knowing the ending too early means nothing.
2. Mature and devoid of honesty
Of course, maturity does not mean not being honest or lying, but some white lies come from maturity and are still respected. However, regardless of goodwill or malice, lies are ultimately lies, and goodwill and malice are only a matter of motivation. Maturity represents the objective existence of such lies between each other, and goodwill and malice are only a matter of interest.
3. Maturity makes people addicted to material things
Mature people are often very practical, and reality is clearly seen by them. So, they don't care too much about the optional romances in marriage and love, they focus more on the practical significance. So, in their view, the pursuit of material pursuits is paramount in the meaning of real life. Therefore, perhaps they will miss out on many of the most primitive and ordinary romances in love.
4. Maturity makes people feel insecure
Some people say that mature people give people a sense of security, but I believe the opposite is true. How can you be certain that the scheming displayed by mature people in external situations will not react to you in the future driven by certain interests? A simple girl must pay attention to this point. When looking for a man, she should look for a wise man, not a mature man. Don't forget, his maturity today is likely his means of dealing with you.
5. Maturity makes people short-sighted
The author said that maturity here refers to maturity in the traditional sense, which means that one is quite clear about the laws of secular life in front of them. So, he focused all his attention on the life in front of him, and then brought love into a monotonous and mundane life through marriage. It was impossible to manage love in a grand way, making it difficult for his family to break free from the worldly constraints.
