Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I met through a personal friend introduction. At that time, everyone was relatively old, and after meeting each other, they found it suitable and got married.
After marriage, my husband treated me well, and I have a 3-year-old child. In the past year or two, due to the high economic income of my husband, I want to have another one. But I have had three spontaneous abortions for various reasons.
Recently, I accidentally found my husband on QQ. Usually, my husband never chats with others online at home, but he often steals vegetables on the computer or QQ on his mobile phone several times a day. After sneaking in, I found that my husband often chats with a woman, and the content is still a bit ambiguous. Because he is on QQ at the company, I occasionally see some content on his QQ at home. Unconsciously, he asked why he was always invisible. He said he didn't want the company to find out that he was on QQ, because he was on QQ purely to steal vegetables. "But I found out that he often chats with women, and if it weren't for him looking for someone else, he would be invisible and no one else would know he was online.". The woman whose chat content was ambiguous, I worked out her real name, and her husband said she was a colleague. But my husband changed his QQ number to another name. And that woman always calls her husband's cell phone during work hours. Maybe my husband knows something. He's a very cautious person. Sometimes on the same day, I will see the phone call record, but tomorrow, my husband will delete the call record, and the SMS will also be deleted, although the content of the SMS is very ordinary.
"Now I think about this every day. Due to physical and family reasons, I haven't been working much for the past year or two, and I won't be around my husband again in the first half of next year to take care of my children, so I'm very worried about his cheating.". How can I solve my confusion?
Xiao Dan:
There are many means of communication nowadays, some for business, others for entertainment and making friends. These are all very normal. No, it seems abnormal instead. This has nothing to do with the means of communication, the key lies in the people who use it.
From your email, I can only see if your husband is in contact with other women via SMS or QQ, and it is difficult to say if there are any issues. It would be arbitrary and irresponsible to conclude that he was mentally derailed. It is a normal phenomenon that successful men are often favored by women's preference for women's preference. However, whether it is possible to develop to the extent of infidelity depends on the marital relationship and the man's sense of responsibility in the marriage.
Many times, we cannot blindly blame men or monitor them. After all, men do not live in a vacuum; At the same time, snatching battles between women can also make men uncomfortable. Any man with a slight sense of responsibility will be careful about his marriage, even if he cheats, he will also be cautious. Establishing a family is not easy for successful men, but destroying a family is not an easy decision for them.
How to defend your marriage? This requires increased communication between you and your husband, as well as your involvement in his career or work. If you blindly become a full-time wife and lose contact with your husband and the outside world, it is very dangerous.
Finding a man and realizing his potential is a good marriage. I believe that this man's success has something to do with you. Therefore, you should cherish it and maintain close contact and communication with him.
While caring for children, don't neglect your husband. In fact, men are very concerned about women's feelings towards themselves. It is dangerous for women to neglect men's emotions because of their children's upbringing. Many women may feel that women are unhappy because of this. In fact, this is part of emotional construction, and there is no question of luck or misfortune.
Women can't nag unnecessarily. It's not easy for a man to be outside, and he needs a woman's encouragement and comfort. Nagging and complaining can only increase men's distress, and some men will choose to vent through it. This is dangerous.
