Post Date December, 03 2023
Once upon a time, there was a loving old couple who lived next door to my house. The old man had a bit of a cleanliness habit and always had the obligation to clean the public corridors. On several occasions, I temporarily left kitchen waste in the corridor, and immediately encountered protests from the old man. In addition to being strict with his neighbors, the old man was also not polite to his old lady's demands. On several occasions, I heard the old man angry at the old lady for unsterilized bowls and chopsticks. "The old man has a strange and slightly clean personality. If he were my elders, I would definitely not be able to bear it.".
Once, the old lady next door came to my house as a guest, and accidentally talked to Old Lady Tian about the old man's love of cleanliness. From what the old lady said, she did not feel any dissatisfaction with her, but rather felt that she was very happy living with the old man. She said that when she first fell in love with the old man, she discovered that he had a slight habit of cleanliness. After the two married, the young old man always kept the house in order, which saved the old lady a lot of worry.
In this way, the two lived for most of their lives. Sometimes the children don't understand their father's approach, and the old man who loves cleanliness often arouses resentment from neighbors and colleagues. However, the old lady always feels that this is the advantage of her husband and doesn't feel unreasonable. The old lady also said that she has a habit of snoring herself, and the old man is also very tolerant of her. Until now, the old man will feel uneasy as long as he doesn't hear her snoring any day. From tolerance, they learned to appreciate each other, and along the way, they have become more appreciative of each other's love, which is why they are so in love now.
The key to loving couples is to learn to appreciate each other
Later, I realized that this may be the reason why the two old people have been in love so far. "Cleanliness and snoring are unbearable shortcomings in the eyes of ordinary people, but in the eyes of a loving couple, they become the ingredients of each other's emotional life. Only by appreciating deeply can one enjoy deeply, and the deeper the love, the more things one appreciates each other.".
"Between a husband and wife, it is not necessarily the talent and beauty of the other person that they appreciate, because talent varies from high to low, and beauty also fades over time.". Appreciation should be multifaceted, ranging from a gentle disposition, to mutual understanding and delight, to diligence and simplicity, to humor and humor, and even to a small flaw. As long as they are good at affirming each other, couples can understand how to appreciate each other. Of course, both men and women need to pay attention to their own cultivation and improve their own level in order to more attract the other party to appreciate themselves.
In addition, appreciation also requires mutual tolerance. To love a person, one cannot only love his merits, but cannot tolerate any flaws in the other person. We appreciate the noble elegance of the Venus girl, even if she has a broken arm. We still treat art like this, not to mention being a lover who will accompany you for the rest of your life. As the saying goes, "No gold without bare feet, no man without perfection", there are some subtle shortcomings that can set off the strengths and authenticity of the other party.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
