Take up the middle-aged uncle. I married him against my parents' wishes. I would be mad to learn the truth that he married me

At the age of 27, I am still a single woman. The income is stable, the economy is independent, and the face value is unique among the crowd, but there is no boyfriend around. I'm not in a hurry. My parents urge me to be in a hurry. I like mature men, boys about my age, and the appearance of small fresh meat. I have no sense of security at all. There were a lot of blind dates, but few liked them. Until I met my present husband, I felt my spring was coming.

He is twelve years older than me and is a second married man. He and his wife were not in harmony and finally divorced peacefully. At first glance, I saw him with a gentlemanly demeanor. He was charming. We met at KTV. A few friends had a good time and had a few beers. I felt a little dizzy. He gave me hot water, talked with me, and sent me home. He was very caring. I was particularly touched. After that, we often went out to play, eat, drink and sing together. One day, I found that I couldn't leave him. I was restless after a day.

I confided my heart to him. He even showed his love to me first. I compromised. We had a relationship that should not have happened that night. When I told my parents that I was going to fall in love with my middle-aged uncle and get married, my father got angry and said that he would rather let me be an old girl all his life than give me to a second married old man. I think my father has a prejudice against him, and I tried to persuade him to meet him. After all, I am still my father's daughter. He can't bear to see me sad. After an appointment, they met. In terms of speech and behavior, my husband impressed my father. However, age has always been an unacceptable fact for my father.

I'm determined to marry, and my parents can't do it. After marriage, we loved each other very much and cooperated with each other very well. Half a year later, I found that there was something wrong with our husband and wife's life. I felt that he was very tired. Sometimes he was so tired that he lay on the bed and didn't want to move. I made soup for him and bought tonic, but the effect was not great. I am young and I need nourishment. He can't afford to sleep with me in separate rooms.

I feel very aggrieved when newlyweds sleep in separate rooms. My husband said, "No matter whether you like it or not, I will recuperate. How can I have a son? My ex-wife gave me two daughters. If I don't work hard, I can only go to the nursing home in the future.". I'm confused. He married me for the sake of giving birth to a son?

I was so angry that he didn't explain and left a sentence: whatever you think, take the quilt and go to the next room. I suddenly felt that my choice was wrong. I found a mature man, but it was prudent. If I knew this, I should listen to my parents. I should think about what I should do now. I just got married. Do I want to leave?

Reply from the consultant:

Hello. When men reach a certain age, they are not as energetic as young people. They are always a little weak. It is understandable that he wants a child to support himself in the future, but if he speaks too directly, it will hurt his feelings and make people feel profitable.

You feel aggrieved because he took advantage of you, but you took the initiative to fall in love and marry. If it was profitable, how could he delay to kill you? Only when you fell in love with him can you confess and marry you. Everything has two sides. We can't be too entangled. We should communicate with our husband well and live a good life. Only with less resentment and more warmth can marriage last. During the observation period, if you can't, leave early to avoid delaying your youth.