Post Date December, 03 2023
As the saying goes, "It's easy to love, but difficult to get along with.". When in love, everything seems to be good for each other. After becoming a husband and wife, it seems that everything has changed its flavor. In daily life, there are contradictions and disputes between the husband and wife, especially women. She holds a magnifying glass to look at her husband, always hoping that he can do as he pleases and look up to himself. Slowly, the relationship between the husband and wife also appears to have cracks.
Yang Jie is a native of Xinjiang, and usually spends money lavishly. When she sees something she likes, she will not hesitate to buy it. In addition, she is a bit of a "cleanliness addict" in her life. Everything in her family should be kept in order and neatly arranged.
Her husband, Hu Yi, is from Shandong Province. He grew up in the countryside and developed the habit of frugality from an early age. Although he now has a considerable income, he definitely does not buy anything that needs to be added to the family, but what he should buy. Hu Yi is still a bit disciplined in his life, so recently, his life with his wife has been plagued by constant problems, which have plagued him.
"His wife likes to be clean, but Hu Yi puts shampoo on the tea table every time he finishes using things. For example, after washing his hair, he puts shampoo on the tea table, and the towel he uses is left to dry. Every time, his wife always warns him, but Hu Yi seems to ignore it.".
Hu Yi likes to play games when he's free, but his wife doesn't like listening to the sound in the game. Therefore, he always asks his husband to turn off the sound in the game. The husband says, "If you turn off the sound, it won't be fun for me to play." The wife says, "Then don't play." Sometimes, Hu Yi becomes obsessed with playing games, and his wife walks up to him and turns off the computer ruthlessly, This made Hu Yi, who was playing the game, suddenly "erupt into a volcano.". He glared at his wife, but said nothing. He went downstairs alone.
An hour later, Hu Yi returned home and called his wife to her side. In a very low voice, he told her, "Perhaps we are really not suitable, with different lifestyles and personality differences. Why don't we divorce?"
At this moment, the wife's tears flowed down disobediently, and she slumped on the sofa.
Don't always ask for directions to align with yourself
Hu Yi was really angry this time. He couldn't continue to endure the shackles of his wife. He longed to break free. He didn't want to always follow his wife's trajectory. He had his freedom, so he filed for a divorce.
In fact, there are many frequent conflicts between couples, which can easily lead to thoughts such as "not suitable for each other at all" or "personality differences are too large". They even believe that there is a problem with each other's personality or value orientation, and try to correct it in various ways. In order to correct, she will try various methods. If a husband obediently changes his character or lifestyle for his wife, this is of course a good thing, otherwise, there will be cracks between them.
Couples who live together do not necessarily have to live according to the standards of the other. After all, they are both adults. If the wife consistently and repeatedly requests the other party to correct their mistakes or shortcomings, there will be a chain reaction of contradictions between the two people, and negative emotions will continue to intensify.
"It's not easy for couples to get together, and it's even harder to get along until they're old. Therefore, don't insist on keeping up with yourself in the right direction. When you see what the other person is not satisfied with, you might as well take a step back.".
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
