Post Date December, 03 2023
I am a 25 year old married woman. My husband and I were married for two years and gave birth to a little boy last October. "The child is lively and cute, and I am charming. I also devote all my attention to the child.". However, for some reason, after childbirth, I realized that my husband was not as affectionate towards me as before, but rather a bit aloof, with almost no active demands for a married life. "I believe in my husband, who will never let his emotions wander. I also believe that my childhood love with him will not be easily destroyed.". But why does the husband behave coldly?
The issues mentioned in the letter have certain universality in society. Many of my young friends have raised similar questions in their letters. From this perspective, it seems that the coldness of the husband after the wife's childbirth is not an illusion of the wife. Seriously analyzed, there are reasons for this.
First of all, as a result of affection, young parents are overjoyed when their children are born. Especially the mother will pour infinite love into this little angel. Needless to say, at this moment, the wife unknowingly snubs her husband. The couple's feelings used to be shared by each other, but now with a third party whom both parties regard as their beloved, the feelings of both parties, especially the wife, are naturally not as focused and enthusiastic as they used to be. In this regard, wives often have little feeling, but husbands often feel left out by their wives. Therefore, after giving birth to a child, both spouses need to give each other more consideration and warmth to avoid this feeling of indifference.
Some people say that after giving birth to a child, the wife and before childbirth are just like two people. This refers to judging from appearance. Indeed, many women are busy all day after giving birth, with their hair not combed, their clothes disheveled, and their looks like crazy women. You know, one person's liking for another person depends to a certain extent on their appearance and clothing. Neat clothes make people happy, but vice versa. This is something that deserves the attention of many women. No matter how busy, a wife must pay attention to her appearance and maintain a good image.
Besides feeding babies, as well as the heavy housework, only those who are physically present can experience it. This often consumes most of one's energy and leaves no time for others to take care of it. If it all falls on one person, that's even more true. Therefore, during this special period, both spouses should be considerate and cooperate with each other to manage the family together. Just by freeing up more leisure time for the couple themselves, the situation naturally changes greatly.
In addition, it is also an objective reality that the wife's sexual requirements decrease after childbirth. However, this is not the main factor.
Confused female reader, after all this, I don't think you will be confused anymore. Some people say that this period of time is a crisis stage in the relationship between husband and wife, and improper handling can lead to chapped relationships in the future. I believe you can handle it properly and make the tree of love evergreen.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
