Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband has an affair and wants to divorce me.
We have a 5-year-old son, but I don't want to divorce, but he put forward a wonderful and unreasonable condition to me, saying that it is OK not to divorce, so let him live at home one, three, five, and two, four, six. He was not such a person originally. Has he moved the truth this time? I'm going crazy. I'm afraid that he will divorce me. It's too collapse.
He also said that he wanted that woman to be my son's stepmother. He also said that he was a beautiful girl. Is he really going to divorce me? He said that he would have no children in the future. If only I hadn't found it, he wouldn't have gone too far. I feel that the more I recognize him, the more I go too far. I really don't want to divorce him. I don't have any relatives here. I dare not tell my mother, Brother Shan, can you help me? He said that it was okay to divorce, but leave him alone. Is there any way to make him change his mind?
In the past, our relationship was very good. Later, when the child went to school, I went to work. He complained that I was not good to him in the past three years, and we were not very good in terms of sexual life. In the past year, I found that when he and I were intimate, it was over a minute, and I really should pay for it. He said that I gave him a whole mental problem. Now he is good, said that he is not ill, and had taken a lot of medicine before, but it doesn't matter. A few days ago, I found him eating Maka. He said that he would have divorced if he had no children.
We have been together since 2003. I betrayed him once before I got married. Now he doesn't come back from work after two or four or six hours. I still have to work and watch the children. I sell mobile phones in the mobile phone store. Every day when the children are out of school, I have to take them to the mobile phone store to work with me. I know that girl, too. I'm not in the mood to work now. I don't know what to do?
reply:
1. After all, the truth is that you caused trouble first. You hurt your husband before marriage, and he can't forget it. Once you encounter setbacks or problems in the real marriage, it is easy to take things in the past and release anger to you. For this reason, your husband's affair is the result of a variety of reasons, and the most hidden inducement is naturally inseparable from your original betrayal.
2. With regard to the life of husband and wife, in order to obtain a high-quality, good and harmonious sex life, first of all, we need a good emotional foundation to pave the way, and strive to create and establish a smooth intimate relationship. The quality of life of the husband and wife is not good, especially when the husband is not in good condition, the wife should not directly complain and be indifferent, which will only backfire and even form a vicious circle. A wise wife must understand tolerance and encouragement, and communicate patiently with her husband to find out the specific reasons for his sexual ability problems, such as whether it is a physical problem or a psychological problem. If she can't find the answer, she must take her husband to the hospital for professional examination. According to my experience, many of the men's sexual quality problems may be related to their psychological state, such as stress, bad mood, etc.
3. With regard to your husband's unreasonable demands of 135 and 246, if he is particularly serious about taking this condition to talk with you, then you will see your own bottom line. I don't think any woman can tolerate this wonderful request from her husband. It's not just a matter of humiliation. It shows that your husband is really determined to divorce you. For this reason, you need to be prepared for the breakdown of marriage.
4. I don't want to divorce or agree to my husband's unreasonable request. How can I make him change his mind? This is really a headache. I think it is better to start with the establishment of a close relationship between husband and wife, but the premise is that it is too difficult to rely on unilateral efforts. If your husband is determined to deal with that mistress, he cannot accept you and recognize you from the heart, then your efforts may be in vain. Try it. First, correct your shortcomings, improve yourself, improve yourself, and make yourself easier to get along with, more perfect, and more feminine. Second, I said that you should be self-reliant and independent, so that your husband can't look down on you, and take cute children as weapons, let children represent you and him to convey feelings, remind and inspire him to feel his responsibility as a father at any time, in order to arouse his conscience. If none of these works, don't you also know the third person? Then you can try to communicate with the third person. The premise of communication is calm, not infinite anger. If you can solve it with wisdom, try not to rely on barbarism.
Finally, some marriages were lost to time, some to distance, some to neglect of management, some to self-righteous, and some to be doomed to final ruin. In any case, if you try hard, you will have a clear conscience, and if you try hard, you will have no regrets!
