Keywords: She said it's not suitable to be together
Q: # Crows love to answer questions # We are colleagues, and it was she who began to like me, and then had close physical contact, except that there was no relationship. Later, I went to another unit, and when I asked her out, I always said I didn't want to come out. On holidays, I also went to play with friends. Once, I ran directly over to wait for her before coming out. After eating, I went for a walk by the river. When I stood and chatted together, I felt that she always intentionally kept two people apart. Embracing, kissing, and holding hands were all rejected at first, but later accepted. The next night, I went to find her to have dinner with my former colleagues. After dinner, she said she was going out to find friends, leaving me to play with my colleagues. At night, I was told that being with me was stressful and inappropriate in many aspects, such as personality, and that she wasn't as good as I expected. "I haven't had a good time chatting on WeChat all the time. She rarely replies and can chat for a long time on the phone.". "I was hesitant about this relationship from the beginning, and now I want to express myself to her and give her a positive answer, but I didn't expect her to say that she thinks we are not suitable now.". Asked if she liked me, she said it was okay. What should I do?
Answer: In situations like this, she is a more impulsive and emotional type. At the beginning, she took the initiative to express her love for you, so at that time, you didn't have a showdown with her (the showdown wasn't about verbally saying that I like you and being my girlfriend, but you didn't do what your boyfriend should do. Have you talked about what you like about her? Have you done personality screening?) So if your sister paid for her feelings, but you didn't pay for the corresponding feelings When a younger sister regains her sanity and discovers this unfairness, she will associate your shortcomings (everyone has shortcomings, and when emotions are not unified, your shortcomings will magnify) with her, and she is highly likely to repent.
To recover from situations like this, you should first reflect on what your shortcomings are, correct them, and guide your own life. Let her take the initiative to discover your new face and try to recover it.
Key words: Can exposure needs be remedied
Q: # Crow Love Answer # (third time) Da Da, I have been learning this thing for more than half a year, and I have been following you for some time. Recently, I made a girlfriend and had some emotional issues. I hope you can answer this: Actually, she and I are the ones who like each other. She likes my love, beauty, and openness, and I like her bright smile. "We had a great conversation, and then one afternoon, I verbally confirmed our relationship with her. Since then, I may have been a bit relaxed and treated her as my girlfriend. Actually, she has invested a lot in me, and I have also invested in her, but now I always feel strange. Later, when I was free, I calmed down and thought carefully about what the problem was, and finally figured it out.", It turns out that since I've been with her for over half a month, I've only had one or two high-quality appointments, but each time it's due to various reasons that have led to the failure of the upgrading relationship between the two countries, which has also exposed a certain sense of need. Therefore, I want to seek help from Crow Dada. How can I remedy this problem, or just break up and start the next one?
Answer: So brother, sister, is this a move to provoke you? "Your idea is to break up and start the next one." Are you playing with others like this? "We don't promote such values, and on the one hand, your skills are not good, on the other hand, you think it might be better to change to another?"? "One flaw in discovering a brother is that you worry about gain and loss, and you are afraid of losing. In fact, you have the idea that deep down in your heart, you are inferiority complex, and you are afraid of being rejected by others. You can't use this idea to protect your heart.".
So it is recommended that first brother you should change this mindset as soon as possible. Only with a positive and healthy mindset, that is, good self guidance, can you have better development in your love career in the future.
Secondly, if you want to spend time with your sister, you should now finalize your next date as soon as possible. Open your heart to her on the date, tell her how you like her, use the techniques we have taught you in the past to get her to share her positive feedback about the relationship, and then upgrade the relationship.
3 Key words: self esteem ok
Q: Dada, after a period of study, I have achieved a little. I think I am a small PUA, and I have also made some achievements. "But humans are still sentient species, and I cannot avoid them!"! A girl she liked before learning to bubble up at school exposed her sense of need before, and then she simply knelt and licked her way to bubble up at school. After a period of time, she unexpectedly turned around and saw the hope of success. But yesterday, she suddenly sent a string of messages, which had already declared the end... What should I do, please!
Answer: A mountain is higher than a mountain, and if you know it, does it mean you know it? If you know it, does it mean you can do it? If you can do it, does it mean you understand it. "You know a lot of knowledge, but when you use it, the phrase 'I'm a passionate species, I can't help it' appears. This is why you don't use a lot of knowledge well, even when you kneel and lick.". As with the answer above, your sister has already created an inherent bad impression of you, so the most important thing for you now is to reverse this impression, not to make it back.
Read our classic self guidance posts from the past, and I believe they will be of great help to you!
4 keywords; Doesn't like her to ignore
Q: # Crow loves to answer questions # Crow Dada, my sister is a sales person, and I have to work on weekends and have a rest day on weekdays. Every weekend night, I always feel tired and pale on a date. I keep playing with my mobile phone and saying that the customer has a problem looking for her. "I feel so boring that I would offer to take her home. On the way back, I played poor and ignored her. I especially don't like how this feeling breaks.".
Answer: My sister still goes on a date with you when she feels uncomfortable, which indicates that she still has a lot of good feelings for you, but that's how life is like. Although she is a salesperson and relatively independent, she also needs to be cared for and loved in the dead of night. Therefore, you should not express dissatisfaction when she is sending messages to customers. If she sends messages and you also play with your mobile phone, it seems very comfortable. OK. Upgrade the relationship in natural areas, and at the same time, when appropriate, tell her whether to reduce the work content when dating, and express more concern for her. Not only do you talk verbally, but also pay attention to her preferences. Buy her some fruit, rub her shoulders and back when dating, listen to her talk about unhappy things at work, and comfort her.