Since ancient times, Chinese couples have emphasized "mutual affection and respect". In traditional marriage, people like to integrate their love for their spouse into their daily life. This is important, but it is less adjustment and fun. Marriage experts pointed out that compared with foreign couples, Chinese marriages tend to lack the following seven things. If you pay more attention and invest more, your marriage will become more harmonious and beautiful.
Intimacy. Most Chinese couples are shy and feel that "intimacy" is a sticky expression. But research shows that hugging, kissing and other actions to express intimacy are necessary for marriage. The Japanese Wife Lovers Association has launched a "Hug Wife Plan", requiring husbands to give their wives several hugs every day, including the "regular hugs" when going out every day, the "waiting hugs" when waiting for the car and the traffic lights, and the warm hugs from behind and close to the waist.
Love words. Research shows that couples need to say at least three love words every day, such as "I love you" and "I miss you". A study from Houston State University in the United States also found that sweet words in the left ear of a lover can more impress the other person.
Humor. Humor can resolve and buffer conflicts and eliminate barriers. Leng Li, a senior psychological consultant at Shanghai Happy Life Marriage Consulting Company, told the Life Times that humor contains a lot of information: love your wife, make her happy and praise her. The wife received these messages, and her mood naturally turned cloudy.
Appreciate. Chinese people are good at appreciating and praising children, but they are used to looking at their spouses with a critical eye. There are many reasons, but in the long run, it will hurt feelings and destroy the stability of marriage. Everyone wants to be praised, and the more praise, the more it can motivate them to perform well. So, you might as well talk about your appreciation of your partner.
Communication. Huang Weiren, a professor at Northwestern University School of Medicine and known as "Doctor of Love", pointed out that the primary task of marital happiness is to learn to communicate and resolve conflicts. "To enhance the effect of communication, on the one hand, we should use praise instead of criticism, especially not personal attack, on the other hand, we should use less degree modifiers, such as often, always, too. In addition, we should avoid four periods of physical fatigue, hunger, illness or heavy work, which will not affect the effect."
Childlike innocence. Leng Li pointed out that it is important to keep a little more naive and simple, and have more hobbies and curiosity to improve marital happiness. People with childlike innocence are more relaxed in life, happier in mood, and better at discovering interesting things in life. After returning home, once the door is closed, the couple can learn to learn children, often play small games and joke with each other, which can adjust the dull and monotonous life.
Romantic. Romance is not necessarily flowers and wine, but must be at the cost of money. Its form is rich and colorful, and its main connotation is "do what he/she likes for his/her partner". For example, the wife likes to watch movies, and the husband can be patient to accompany her through the movie, which is romantic; When the husband came home from night shift, the wife waited with the bedroom light on and served a bowl of hot Congee, which was also romantic.