Post Date December, 03 2023
Domestic violence is a serious social problem in any country. Some women are puzzled as to why he, who is usually gentle, should be violent towards themselves. Japanese media articles reveal three reasons why gentle men can also commit violence.
1. Difficult to control emotions
Men mainly process things intellectually through verbal information. In contrast, women's right brain for emotional processing is more developed, and girls tend to be more emotional than methodical in finding solutions to things.
Due to the different structures of the brain, sparks often arise from friction between men and women. In this situation, men are confused about the reasons for their anger with women, and rational solutions often do not work. At this point, what men want to say will turn into fists. In fact, men originally wanted to reconcile, but they couldn't express their feelings well.
2. Male violence stems from "unease"
Psychologically, male violence stems from a "disturbed" mentality. Men are not good at expressing themselves, nor can they pour out their inner troubles and boredom. Even if you ask them directly, the answer will only be nothing. Over the years, the pressure and anxiety in men's hearts will accumulate and eventually become domestic violence.
3. More pain after violence
Men who are prone to domestic violence will have a relatively gentle period called the "honeymoon period" after committing violence. This period is quite brief, and after this period, men will commit violence again.
During this period, men will be very disgusted with themselves, and women can take this period as an opportunity to open their hearts. For example, a woman can create a warm environment and have a good chat with him. Whether it's the cause of violence or various psychological problems, violence can be peacefully resolved by listening to conversations. Through such conversations over and over again, violent men will slowly reflect and eventually correct their mistakes. In addition, men who have experienced domestic violence in their early years are more likely to become abusers.
Although experiencing physical and mental scars from domestic violence, if you have ever loved, don't give up helping him correct. In addition, don't forget "too many things happen.". When his violence is unruly, one must first consider one's own safety.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
