Post Date December, 03 2023
If economic conditions permit, would you choose to be a full-time wife? I believe that many young women will give a positive answer to this question. However, statistics show that full-time wives are not easy to become. Due to their inability to handle their relationships with their families and society, many full-time wives suffer from mental illness.
According to the statistics of the psychological consultation hotline of the Guangzhou Psychological Crisis Research and Intervention Center, among the nearly 12000 cases visited by the hotline since its opening, nearly 300 cases were definitely called by full-time wives. Among them, nearly half of full-time wives have marital problems, and 10% of full-time wives want to commit suicide.
A paranoid person suffers from anxiety disorder
Mrs. Huang and her husband used to be colleagues in the same unit. After getting married, their husband's position became higher and higher, so she went home and became a full-time wife. At first, Mrs. Huang was able to be considerate to her husband and handle all the affairs at home. However, as her husband became busier and busier, working overtime and on business trips all day, Mrs. Huang couldn't help but start thinking wildly. She was worried that the powerful gentleman could not withstand the temptation of others to "pack a mistress" outside, which she could not bear at all and was bound to divorce. "But she has been unemployed for a long time, and if she and her husband divorce, how can she live without financial resources?"!
Under a strong ideological burden, if Mr. Huang does not go home, Mrs. Huang cannot fall asleep. Her temper is getting worse and worse, and she can't help losing her temper every time she meets her husband. Finally, Mrs. Huang was diagnosed with anxiety disorder.
Xu Wenjun, director of the clinical psychology department of Guangzhou Brain Hospital, said that once women stay at home for a long time without other sustenance, they will feel insecure. This time, attention should be diverted and healthy emotions established. Even if you don't work, you should have a goal in life and act as a good wife. "To a certain extent, if a husband makes mistakes, his wife should take the primary responsibility." Xu Wenjun said, some women go home and become full-time wives, ignoring their social connections. Every day is just daily necessities. When a husband comes home, he feels that there is no common language. The family is becoming more and more like a hotel to him, and it is easy to cheat when they encounter women who are more conversable outside.
Return to work and gain dignity
"Don't choose to be a full-time wife easily," Xu Wenjun said. If conditions permit, women should still try to work outside. On the one hand, maintaining contact with society, on the other hand, it also helps establish life goals. Ms. Chen, 39, is an example of this.
At the age of 22, Ms. Chen married her current husband despite family opposition. After struggling, the two couples opened a factory and had two children. After the business stabilized, Ms. Chen went home to concentrate on taking care of the children and became a full-time wife. The year before last, Ms. Chen felt that Mr. Chen's behavior was somewhat strange. She hired a detective company to investigate that Mr. Chen had made a "mistress" outside. This discovery left Ms. Chen heartbroken and she dialed the psychological consultation hotline of the Brain Hospital. Subsequently, Ms. Chen chose to divorce her husband.
After the divorce, Ms. Chen left Guangzhou and arrived in Dongguan. She used her savings to open a breakfast shop and soon her business was on track. Recently, Ms. Chen called a psychologist again because her husband proposed to remarry her. "After returning to work, Ms. Chen has gained dignity in front of her husband," said consultant Wang Ling, which will also be the foundation of their new marriage.
