Men are from Venus and women are from Mars. They often collide with each other due to various problems. The conflict is acute and irreconcilable. It seems to give more emotional comfort to men and women, and the emergence of "heterosexual intimate" has become a new link to frame the relationship between men and women.
Men and women have different demands for heterosexual girlfriends, but both men and women will immediately raise their vigilance when they hear that each other has heterosexual girlfriends. Is the secret of the opposite sex a good medicine in the emotional world, or a time bomb hidden in the dark? See how psychiatrists interpret the cautious thinking of men and women.
The man said——
Hao Jindong, deputy chief physician of the Department of Rehabilitation and Physiotherapy of Traditional Chinese and Western Medicine in the Armed Police General Hospital and the national second-level psychological consultant, believes that men's feelings for their confidantes belong to the fourth category of emotions, which are less than love and more than friendship, so that men get more levels of emotional care.
Satisfying the desire to conquer: Men with full masculinity have a strong desire to conquer from the "root". The pursuit of the opposite sex belongs to nature. The more caring the opposite sex gives to themselves, greatly satisfying the male's desire to conquer and vanity.
Need to talk: In modern society, men are under high pressure, and they must take the lead in their work and career. They are also mainstays in their family life. But men are not iron men, and iron men also have many kinds of tenderness. When they encounter difficulties and frustrations, they always need someone to talk. The wife is always nagging, and her confidant is the best person to talk to.
Romantic feelings: According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, the pursuit of human beings is always progressive, just like after enjoying the considerate care of the lover, men still want to pursue more romance. Those who can't get spiritual relaxation in the family need to find a confidant to compensate.
For men, confidantes are always hard to find. Once a confidante is found, it can be all kinds of heartfelt. But confidantes and misfortunes also exist after confidantes. A bosom friend is also a step away from a disaster. If you go wrong, you will lose yourself.
Expert comments: How to balance the relationship between lover and confidant requires three realms: "The so-called lover is on the water side", confidant and confidant, sometimes close, sometimes on the water side, the distance is the most reassuring. The temptation of "leaning against the door and looking back, but smelling the green plum" is possible, but the scenery in the painting is the most beautiful if you hold the temptation. "One more person's pink emotion", you might as well turn the two-person tour with your confidant into a three-person tour, and turn your confidant into a common friend of you and your lover. The stability of the three-party relationship is more reliable.