Is confidence equal to narcissism? Although there is a word difference between the two, the meaning is a thousand miles apart. For example, if you talk to a confident person, you will feel that they are great, and you can also talk to them freely about the world. If you talk to narcissistic people, you will find that they are great, compared to you, they are very poor! You must follow his rhythm.
Everyone is valuable and lovely, and in this process, they gradually form true self-worth and self-appreciation. Psychology calls this self-worth and self-appreciation "secondary narcissism". Only by completing this psychological development process can a person achieve healthy narcissism and gain full self-esteem, self-love, and confidence in subsequent life.
When talking, confident people will pay attention to you, listen attentively to you, and not interrupt you. And narcissistic people will interrupt you and say how I am, and they look forward to you paying attention to them.
Of course, from a psychological theoretical perspective, narcissism is the foundation of confidence. In the early stages of our lives, when we were infants, the meticulous care of caregivers gave us a sense of omnipotence, which is also the foundation for us to gain a sense of security and trust in this world. Psychology refers to the 'omnipotent' state of infants as' primitive narcissism '. Primitive narcissism is the embryonic form of healthy narcissism and the foundation of interpersonal security, confidence, self-esteem, and self-love in adulthood.
As babies grow up, they gradually discover that besides "themselves," there is also a richer "others and the world" that they cannot control. Through various suitable setbacks in real life, they gradually understand that everyone's abilities are limited, and this world is also imperfect. Even so, everyone is valuable and adorable, and in this process, true self-worth and self-appreciation gradually form. Psychology calls this self-worth and self-appreciation "secondary narcissism". Only by completing this psychological development process can a person achieve healthy narcissism and gain full self-esteem, self-love, and confidence in subsequent life.
If the psychological development develops and remains stagnant in the need for 'primitive narcissism', such a person is a type of narcissistic personality disorder, mainly manifested as living in their own world, only seeing themselves, not others and the world, making it difficult to sympathize or empathize with others, and understand others; The word 'I' is often gray in expression; It is easy to believe that any look from others or any sound from the outside world is related to oneself; Sometimes confidence leads to heaven, sometimes inferiority leads to hell; Extreme need for external recognition and admiration; More seriously, in order to maintain one's' weak self-esteem ', it requires constant unrealistic fantasies and various self motivation to survive or interact with others.