In the minds of many people, a 44 year old man is at a time of career success and ambition. The United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO) pointed out in a report that, based on a large amount of statistical data from countries around the world, men between the ages of 43 and 45 will undergo significant physiological changes. Therefore, 44 years old has been designated as the dividing point between youth and adulthood.
The life curve of a person drops from its peak, while the burden curve of work and family rises. The intersection of these two scissor shaped curves is 44 years old, so 44 years old can also be called the axis of the "middle-aged scissors". Due to physiological changes, middle-aged men experience significant changes in their psychology, thinking, and work.
Loneliness fills the heart
A 44 year old man is busy, carrying two heavy burdens of family and career. Due to being stuck in their own world, they rarely have time to communicate with others, and 44 year old men may feel lonely. The competition is unprecedentedly fierce, and the relationships between people are becoming increasingly indifferent, creating a sense of caution towards each other. A successful 44 year old man has a feeling of being too high and too cold; 44 year old men with poor career progress inevitably experience feelings of depression and oppression. My heart is old "is a common lament made by 44 year old men. Most middle-aged people experience inner and mental loneliness.
Mr. Liu, 44 years old, is a manager of a large shopping mall. He said he doesn't have any close friends and doesn't want to have too much interaction with his subordinates. "I think to complete my tasks well, I need to maintain a non emotional relationship with others. He felt it inappropriate to reveal his true feelings to another person. In real life, it is not surprising that a 44 year old man does not have a confidant, and many people admit that they do not have a close friend who can be completely trusted and confided in. However, most of them seem to believe that this phenomenon is normal and acceptable. The isolation of the inner world prevents people from establishing true friendship through emotional communication. The lack of friendship leads modern people to a strong sense of loneliness, as some middle-aged people describe their feelings: "In this world, I feel lonely, jealous, angry, and nervous." It is precisely this sense of loneliness and exclusion from others that exacerbates the emotional crisis of middle-aged people.
Hostile towards successful individuals
A 44 year old man may sympathize with those who are in trouble in life, but often develop hostility towards those who are on the rise. The generation of hostility is mostly related to a sense of inferiority. When a 44 year old man makes some achievements, he becomes kind, compassionate, and generous; After failure, he is very easily angered. A 44-year-old man is in trouble at work, and a child overturning an oil bottle is enough to make him furious. However, if the same thing happens on the day he receives praise from his boss, his attitude may be soft and say to the child, "Never mind, don't be afraid." Although hostility is a very common and normal phenomenon for a 44-year-old man, it is a negative emotion, and excessive hostility can easily distort a person's mind, Accustomed to wearing color changing glasses to look at people, often complaining and suffering unbearable.
Escape responsibility, worry, and depression
Liu Jun has just turned 44 this year, and his life has been in a state of decline. He has gradually lost his joy and excitement, evading responsibility and blaming others for all his mistakes. He was sad and depressed all day, as if he was just waiting for death. His inner frustration is mainly due to the people and things around him, and he is unable to adapt to the surrounding environment. So he refused to grow up and continued to disguise himself, always saying in self pity, "What should I do? Why am I so unproductive? This world is too unfair to me
Some 44-year-old men who have achieved success can also experience depression. For example, successful men who are not good at handling household chores and face a messy home often experience a strong sense of frustration.
Depression often amplifies life's misfortunes, so it is necessary for middle-aged men who are troubled by persistent and strong depression to receive psychological treatment. However, these people are often unwilling to admit that they have psychological problems, which will inevitably cause further damage to their work, life, and marriage.
Depression caused by depression
In modern society, competition and standing out are emphasized, especially for middle-aged men who want to achieve great success, which brings them endless psychological pressure. However, traditional Chinese social culture requires people to be "happy and angry without showing their emotions", especially for older men who are "tearful but not light hearted", emphasizing the suppression of their emotions, which has caused many 44 year old men to experience depression symptoms and deepened their emotional crisis.
Increased anxiety when encountering things
After being suddenly notified to be laid off at the age of 44, Du Jun became blind in a state of anxiety, a phenomenon known by psychologists as the "conversion reaction" caused by neurosis. Due to the pressure of work and family, as well as the desire for career success, middle-aged people often experience great psychological pressure, which leads to anxiety and anxiety for many people.
Experts believe that in order for 44 year old middle-aged men to overcome psychological crises, they should adjust their psychology, cultivate a happy mindset, form a positive self, tap into their potential, readjust their life goals, learn to care for themselves, and seize opportunities to succeed. At the same time, as a wife, one should also be concerned and considerate of their husband, discover subtle changes in their heart in a timely manner, and help them overcome psychological difficulties.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)