Post Date December, 03 2023
From the perspective of sexual psychological hygiene, divorce is an important death of interpersonal relationship. According to the "life event psychological stress scale" of American scholar Holmes, the probability of psychological and physiological diseases caused by divorce is only second to the death of spouse. That is to say, the loss of a spouse from the marriage relationship and the loss of a spouse from the life relationship are the most serious psychological and physiological injuries. Therefore, your husband's divorce from you makes you feel like a serious illness, which should be said to be a normal psychological and physiological reaction.
However, you should not be too sad about divorce. Because Engels has said for a long time: "If the relationship has indeed disappeared or has been excluded by the new and enthusiastic love, it will make divorce a blessing for both parties and the society". Your husband is far away from you, which means that his feelings for you "have indeed disappeared or have been excluded by new and enthusiastic love". What is the positive significance of continuing to maintain with him? So, since you agreed to divorce him, you should face up to the reality and quickly get out of the shadow of divorce.
So how to get out of this shadow? Please remember Pavlov's words: "Don't always look back, it can make you feel numb." You have six things to do: first, believe in your own value, use a positive attitude, to create new life results, and strive for new meetings; Second, maintain proper self-esteem, do not feel inferior because of your husband's divorce, and show your freedom and dignity in front of all men; Third, we should be responsible for our own behavior. We should never break the can, let alone accept irresponsible men because of divorce; Fourth, we should give full play to our strengths, try our best to show our strengths, and strive to create results to enrich our lives; Fifthly, learn to use the psychological defense mechanism to rationalize the explanation of your divorce. Don't get into the corner of the ox. You can never forget it. If necessary, you can use some illusions to get rid of your immediate pain; Sixth, move into new situations in time. It should be said that this is the most important. As long as you do not intend to remain single forever, you should seize the opportunity to enter the new male world and find your new destination.
All this, in an academic word, is "personal life reconstruction after divorce". I hope you can rebuild your happy life as soon as possible.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
