Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband is five years older than me, and this year, he is 34 years older. We got married last year. His family conditions are not good, and he has no culture. Sometimes I feel tired and unreasonable reasoning with him.
He went to the bookstore to buy books and asked me what kind of exam books I needed to buy. I said to him, "You can buy books in whatever field you want to take the exam.". "He said he didn't know what to take on the exam, and I said I didn't know either. He shouted angrily at me, 'If I knew, I wouldn't have to ask you.'". Why does he think I should know what his unit is going to take the exam for... baffling!
In the first half of the year, he went to apply for a high school job, but it had been a week since the deadline. Someone told him that he couldn't apply for it. He asked him to wait until next year to apply for it. If he didn't agree, he called me and asked me to find a family member to help him sign up. Gosh~~Although my family member works in an institutional unit, they still don't have the ability and authority. I asked him to go to the unit and ask if the candidate list had been applied for, He was very angry and shouted at me, "I know where to ask, okay, okay, I'll be reporting next year." Alas
Other contradictions in life will not be discussed in detail, but the following are really unbearable for me!
"I am a medical worker who works in an emergency center and has nine night shifts every month. I don't have a good rest during the night shift, so I also hope to have a good night's sleep when I get off work. However, my husband always goes to bed first at night (around nine o'clock), and when he wakes up, it's around two or three o'clock in the morning, asking for sex.".
"At that time, I was sleeping soundly and was awakened by him. I was very upset and mostly refused him.". "I don't sleep well, and it takes two or three hours to wake up, but he can fall asleep immediately after being rejected by me, and the best sleep time every night is spent with my eyes open. I've also told him before: I can't sleep well for a third of every month, and I hope I can sleep well for the rest of the time. I don't like to be woken up at night, which will keep me awake for a long time.".
"I also quarreled with him at night because I was awakened, but it was no use at all. He still went his own way.". In April, it was still very cold at night. I couldn't sleep and played with the computer all night after being woken up. He woke up in the morning and knew that I hadn't slept since zero, so he didn't care.
Last night, this was the case again. At 11:00, I was woken up and couldn't sleep. I was playing with my mobile phone and sending messages, which made him unable to sleep well. He was annoyed and asked me to send messages in the living room. I replied, "It's too cold." He complained that I was making him unable to sleep well, "I said, 'Then I slept well, and who woke me up?'" He said, 'I pulled you, so you couldn't sleep anymore?' "I told you before, when I was on the night shift, I couldn't sleep well. I usually hope to sleep well, but it takes a long time for me to wake up. '"
"He was very angry when he heard this and said, 'Strange,' and I replied, 'I slept well and was shaken awake. I couldn't sleep. I wonder, what are you?'" "If you feel like you can't sleep well here, go back to your mother's place to sleep." If there is any argument about other things, he will drive me away. As long as he disagrees with him verbally, he will say, "Don't stay here in the future, go back to your mother's house.".
This happens two or three times a month, and I can't even talk about it. I feel tired even talking about it, and it doesn't work at all. "This is still the case in the future. I am now sleeping in bed, feeling very nervous and afraid of being shaken up if I cannot sleep well at night. Sometimes when I lie in bed, I feel my head ache.". I really don't want to live like this anymore!
He has a habit of using his mobile phone to set an alarm clock, which rings at 5:30 and 6:00. He gets up after 7:00 and presses the button to continue sleeping. He says it's good for sleeping.
After more than a year of marriage, I didn't even get a birth permit, so I had to pay 500 yuan to get a birth permit, so I could take part in a pregnancy test in the future. He didn't want to pay it and asked me to give birth secretly. I didn't agree. My attitude is not to have children without a birth permit.
"I feel that as a man, he has no responsibility and is always willing to shirk responsibility. When he is clearly wrong, he always takes it out on me and yells at me.".
"I really don't want to continue, which makes me feel so tired. I haven't spoken to my parents yet, fearing that they will feel sad when they know it. My aunt agreed with me and thought he wasn't willing to apply for a birth permit, so as not to have children and not be easy to leave. My uncle thought I was just saying one-sided things. He is an honest and honest person, and he hasn't used violence against me. I shouldn't think about divorce, I should live well.". Can only the use of violence prove bad for me?
Is it my attitude or his behavior that is wrong?
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
