My wife and the company leader were found cheating, and I cried and begged me to give her a chance

On the 8th of October, my wife underwent surgery in the hospital. I accidentally discovered that she had an affair with the leader of their unit. She had many indecent chat pictures and videos on her phone that had not been completely deleted.

Although I had doubts before, but without evidence, I knew she would also argue. In the face of all kinds of evidence, she finally admitted and cried for forgiveness, asking me to give her a chance. Before the incident was discovered, my wife was a family oriented person in my heart, taking good care of our entire family. I am very grateful and love her in my heart. The deeper the cuteness, the deeper the injury. I can't understand why even such a good person would betray me, and this time it's not the first one. I never expected her to be deceiving me all the time and hiding so deeply.

Now I don't know what to do? I still love my wife very much in my heart and don't want to leave, but I can't cross this barrier in my heart. If I forgive her, after a long time, she will heal her scar, forget the pain, and be afraid of being hurt again. What should I do?

reply:

Many times, people have two sides, and the side you see may only be superficial, while the unknown side is only temporarily hidden, which is also the true existence of human nature. In the face of infidelity, whether a person will be attracted depends on how much temptation is in front of them.

Your wife and the male leader of her unit had an affair, but there were only two reasons: one was due to a worship mentality, and the other was the temptation of interests, which may not necessarily have a deep emotional connection. Of course, sometimes it's hard to say. Women often develop love for a man because they admire him, or perhaps they may develop some kind of affection for him due to a momentary heat.

In this regard, you need to first examine your marriage and clarify the value of its existence. Then, consider whether to give her a chance. Whether or not to give the other party a chance to improve naturally depends on their attitude after making a mistake. Since your wife sincerely repented afterwards and promised never to do it again, and you love her so deeply that you don't want to leave her, I suggest you prioritize the overall situation of your marriage. Of course, the ultimate choice is in your own hands, and you have the right to accept or reject.

In fact, there is nothing that cannot be understood. This is the truth of human nature, because humans are very complex animals and have emotions. People's thoughts are different in different environments, occasions, and times, and may produce various behaviors and thoughts in an instant, which is not immutable. For this, each of us needs to be prepared to cope with various changes, and there is nothing in this world that cannot happen. Since it has happened, we need to face it calmly, solve it, and repair it. Don't worry about things that haven't come yet, live in the present, handle every moment well, and that's the best explanation for the future.

WeChat Letter:

I have been subjected to domestic violence for over a decade, and I have been enduring it for the sake of my child. In recent years, he has been neglecting his children, not paying back the money he owes to my relatives, and not coming even after my father's death.

In September of this year, when my child started school, he refused to pay the tuition fee. If he didn't answer the phone, he would scold me. I couldn't bear to sue for divorce. He told the judge that he wouldn't go on the day of the trial, so what should I do? I have already provided the judge with the guarantee letter he wrote to me last year and the written evidence that the child did not live with his father. The trial is about to begin on the 26th, and if he does not appear in court, can I divorce him? Can I get custody of the child? Can I still come over with the money he owes my relatives?

Two years have passed, and I have been solely responsible for my child's tuition and living expenses. I am truly disappointed with him. He has to keep dragging on and not take care of his child's living expenses. Once he gets divorced, he will argue for his child's custody. How can I divorce him as soon as possible?

reply:

Hello, based on your confidences, your husband seems to be a scoundrel, without a sense of responsibility or human touch. It is wise for you to make up your mind to choose to divorce such a man.

Since you have filed a lawsuit for divorce and it is a legal matter, it is best to ask more lawyers and judges. Brother Shan does not have authority in this regard. However, you can believe that the law must stand on the side of justice and will tilt towards the weak. As long as you have sufficient evidence, as long as you firmly believe in divorce, there is no marriage that cannot be separated. Even if he does not appear in court, the law will adopt mandatory sentencing according to the corresponding procedures. In short, please believe that in today's increasingly advocating for the rule of law, your rights and interests will be guaranteed.

In addition, you should also be prepared to live independently from now on. At any time, only by achieving self-reliance and self-improvement can you gain your dignity and live a better life.