Post Date December, 03 2023
"Every day, I work very hard, and after work, I like to reduce my stress by drinking and playing mahjong. However, my wife likes me to be around her. In order to take care of her emotions, I even stay away from all my friends. However, when I am with her, she always nags, complains about my parents being bad to her, complains about their colleagues punishing her, or criticizes my daily behavior.". It's like the whole world owes her.
"I don't know whether to contend with her or to turn hostility into friendship through silence. Therefore, I chose silence.".
This kind of life makes me very depressed, causing me to prefer to eat in a small restaurant every noon rather than go home.
"I have wanted to divorce several times, but it is not easy because it involves both parents and children. For this reason, I once chose to tolerate it.". Silly to think that my wife is not mature enough now, but in a few years, when she matures, she will understand how to sympathize with me. However, over the years, my wife has not only remained unchanged, but has even intensified. Even if I work overtime at the minimum and report in advance, she will make more than a dozen phone calls to my unit. "So many colleagues say I'm 'too unmanly'.".
A few days ago, when I was working overtime again, my wife, as usual, called me one by one, luring me into a long suppressed emotion that erupted at that moment. Therefore, I had a hysterical argument with my wife on the phone. "My wife finally gave up the phone, and I didn't call back to continue arguing.".
After returning home from work, only the children were doing their homework in the study, but there was no wife in sight. Call your wife and turn off your phone. So, I went downstairs and sat at the entrance of the community waiting stupidly. About early in the morning, my wife returned and was sent back by a strange man. Immediately after getting off the car, my wife gave the man a affectionate kiss. All this is in my eyes.
When my wife walked to the entrance of the community, she saw me and walked straight towards home without saying hello. I grabbed my wife and asked her why she had gone. My wife actually spoke up and said that she had found a cannonball friend and had gone on a one-night stand.
For the first time in her life, she gave her wife two slaps on the face, and she turned her head and disappeared into the night. "I didn't chase after him, but when I got home, I put the child to sleep.".
Lying in bed alone, remembering the scenes of spending time with my wife over the years, only three words came to mind: Not worth it.
At the moment, I want to end this terrible marriage through divorce, but I'm afraid my children can't stand the turbulence in their family.
What should I do?
Re:
I have a couple around me who just broke up. Their story goes like this:
The husband went to the cinema to watch a movie alone at noon, but unexpectedly met his wife who also went to the cinema alone;
My husband tried to find a fireman online, but unexpectedly met his wife who was also looking for firemen online.
For them, their marriage has already existed in name only, so they finally chose to break up peacefully, even when obtaining a divorce certificate, they seemed so friendly.
The reason I'm telling you this story is to tell you that marriage is a matter of two people. If this marriage makes both parties feel uncomfortable, it's better to separate.
I can see that you love your wife very much, but she doesn't trust you and even deliberately finds fault with you. In this case, you have left your friends for her, and she is still dissatisfied. I really don't know how you can please her before she can stop.
As for people, who hasn't got a little grumpy yet? I'm convinced that arguing with her while you're on the phone is a pent-up emotional release for a long time, but she retaliates by cheating on you. Judging from this, your wife likes to take the extreme route.
Work has been very depressing, and if you have to be careful and burdensome in your marriage life, what is the significance of your life?
You can only stay away from those who don't know how to cherish. Therefore, support your decision to divorce.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
