My second married husband was addicted to online games and even started hitting me, which made me disappointed with my marriage

My husband and I got our marriage certificate in May this year, and we haven't had a banquet yet. I have been with him for three years, and he is a person with a violent temper. I don't have much concern and care for me because during the early stages of entrepreneurship, I faced great economic pressure. He divorced and had a five year old child, no house or money, but I didn't mind. Although we had arguments and hit me, because of our relationship and the fact that he was a decent person, I have always been steadfast in dealing with him.

Every day during the day, he goes out to work, has time to go fishing with friends, and then plays games at home. To be honest, he has his hobbies. I understand, but after all, he is married and living together now. He only lives according to his own preferences every day, regardless of whether I am happy or not. He only has to eat and use the restroom at home, and has never left his online game. After dinner, I hope he can accompany me for a walk, He neither likes nor likes it, preferring to play games.

In order to play games, we argued too much and thought he could change it after getting married, but now it makes me understand that he can't change it and is unwilling to do so because he thinks my hobby is different from his. His hobby is to come home after work and play games, while my hobby is to take a walk after dinner every day. I really hope his life can be healthier. Playing games and fishing are not a problem, but occasionally having fun is good, He can't take up all his life time. Playing games at home allows him to treat me like air for a night without saying a word to me. I feel like I'm similar to the decorations at home. I'm doing everything at home alone. He just needs to be busy with his work, and living expenses, rent, and so on are all my money. He doesn't have money now, and the financial pressure is high. I know and understand. It doesn't matter if I put in a little more effort, but I just hope he can treat me better. Occasionally, he accompanies me for a walk, leading a healthier life, but none of them can achieve satisfaction.

In over two months, he hit me twice because of the game, but I chose to forgive him. I cherish the relationship and marriage between me and him too much, and I have put in too much effort. However, he has never thought about changing it in this regard. I have thought about getting divorced because I think there is a husband in the name of getting married, but in reality, this husband has not given me any support, and I cannot rely on him in life or spirit, I really don't know what to do? Divorce it, after all, my first marriage was only over two months old, and I am not young anymore, in my thirties; Don't divorce, I really can't see any happiness again. I'm so conflicted, and I've been suppressing myself so hard and tired. Could you please give me substantive advice? Thank you very much!

reply:

Hello, first of all, you described your husband as having nothing, the only thing he has is a five year old child, a irritable temper, domestic violence, and neglect of you. In short, he is not good and useless. So I wonder what you saw in him back then, thinking he was a man, and he has a superficial aura of daring to start a business?

Love is a choice. Since you have chosen him and don't want to give up easily, you need to work hard to manage. Managing is not just about putting in your own effort, but about communicating more with the other person. Whether playing online games every day is a hobby, habit, or a way to vent your inner depression or pressure, you must figure it out.

In fact, if a man has internet addiction, domestic violence, and cannot care about women who take care of themselves, and his career cannot see hope, there is really no value in cherishing it. If you just want to compromise because you're old and afraid of being left behind, it's really a foolish idea. What's wrong with being in your thirties? Many people in your 40s can get married just like remarriage. The key is to have a strong heart, have high expectations for yourself, be confident, understand how to improve yourself, and have a determination not to fear failure. Since two people are not happy together, why insist? There are many types of love, find the right person and partner for you, and marriage can have hope and happiness.